In asking him NOT to wake me up every 5 minutes?

[ditchy]

I am a terrible sleeper and if I do get woken up, its rare for me to get back to sleep again with 2 hours.

Anyway since moving in with DP I have been woken up CONSTANTLY throughout the night and it's really starting to take its toll.

He seems to need the toilet at least 2/3 times a night - which wakes me up. Since when did adults need to constantly get out of bed and go to the bog? and to make it worse, he calls it "having a pickle" how manly.

Then if he wakes up and decides he#'s lost something at 3am - he automatically puts the light on and starts rummaging around quite loudly. ALWAYS wakes me up.

If he decides me wants sex and is awake, he'll think nothing of waking me up too. Despite the fact that I NEVER give in to "woken up sex" demands.

Last night was a perfect example of my sleep.

Go to bed at 10.30pm. DP keeps pestering for sex until 11.30pm despite being told firmly "No".

Finally get to sleep by midnight. 12.30am I'm woken up as DP needs a "pickle"

Drift off back to sleep ... 1.30am I get asked "I keep hearing noises! can you hear it?" I reply "no, but I hear you waking me up again"

I drift off back to sleep - 2.30am "THERE, did you hear that? I can't sleep with all this noise!" - me "for fucks sake, I can't sleep AT ALL with you next to me".

3am - DP needs a "pickle" so I automatically wake up.

Don't get back to sleep until 5am when DP suddenly declares "It's 5am, didn't realise it was that time, I'll have to get up soon" so I'm awake again.

FFS is there really any need for all this? I have spoken to him before about it and he stops it for a while but it always starts up again.

Getting sick of it. It's stupid.

Kick him out onto the spare bed/sofa until he can start behaving like a grown up. Has he seen a GP about his frequent night "pickles"? Unless he's drinking gallons of fluid all evening, then that doesn't sound normal to me.

Or you could try ear plugs so you don't hear him get up as much and threaten him with physical violence if he wakes you up on purpose?

If my DH was doing this to me, I would probably have throttled him by now.

I bought my DH a torch to stop him putting the light on in the middle of the night. That and threats of death. Now he puts his IPod on and the light from that wakes me up.

I think the boxroom would be a bit too full of gerbils....

'send him back to mummy' roffle

What an attention seeking little nob!

Tell him to stop waking you up, or to go downstairs and leave you alone. And tell him that if he EVER wakes you up deliberately (for sex or by trying to start a conversation) again, you'll tip a jug of water on his head.

Oh my God - YANBU. I would have killed him by now - there is NO excuse for putting the light on during the night, and as for pestering for sex for an hour........!!
Show him this thread, and maybe he will see that this is not acceptable behaviour.

Sharp elbow to the kidneys as you roll over to go back to sleep....

Seriously though, that is not on. An adult shouldn't need to go to the loo 3 times a night - perhaps he needs to see a doctor.

And I would reiterate that waking you up by turning lights on etc is not on and that if he keeps doing it he'll have to sleep in the spare room until you have caught up on all your sleep.

OK, do you want to stay with him? Honestly, disturbed sleep was a major factor in breaking up my last marriage!

lol sounds like my dp coulda wrote this (apart from the sex bit, thats definately him lol)....but i am 22 weeks pregnant and we do have children

Interesting first post.

Indeed, Gibbon, and I see the OP is not here to chat...shame, that.

Firstly: book him a Drs appointment, get him checked out.

Secondly: Take the sodding fuse out of the plug, or remove the bulb from the bedside light. Better yet, confiscate the ffing lamp altogether, and tell him it's because NOTHING is important enough to be 'lost' at 3am.

Thirdly: buy yourself some earplugs

Fourthly: get yourself a great big stick to beat him off you as and when required.

If he doesnt' buck his ideas up, he has to get himself another place to live.

You poor, poor woman!

Always the way Mimi...post and run far more interesting when they elaborate for us

doesn't...

Would dump him simply for using the word 'pickle' for having a wee!

sounds suspect anyway...................

maybe he just likes gherkins?

Seriously ditchy - put the selfish brat into check!