No, definately not BU. Agree - its just plain rude and you'd imagine a HV would certinly know better..
I had an awful experience at the hands of a so called "health professional" over an assumption.
When my dd was about 2 (I was 22), I had a chest infection, I made a Doctors appointment but couldnt get one for a few days - by the time my appointment came around dd appeared to have a head cold and I decided I would get her chest checked out, just incase, while I was in there anyway.
Im in Ireland and we dont have an NHS, not sure how doctor visits work regarding payment in the UK but here, its €50 per person, per visit unless you qualify for a medical card, in which case its free.
I couldnt get an appointment with my usual GP but with his wife, I checked with the Receptionist when I went in if it was ok for her to see DD too, told it would be fine.
Went in to Doctor's office, was treated appallingly!!. Took one look at us, and I know what assumptions she made.
Firstly she didnt hide her annoyance that I wanted dd checked (realised later it was because she presumed we werent paying cash), she got annoyed with dd when she was fidgeting about when trying to check her throat (she was TWO ffs!) and proceeded to tell me "I dont have the time for this, I have other important patients to see, I dont know if she has a sore throat, Ill give you a prescription and just give it to her if you think she needs it"
She actually rolled her eyes when she went on to the PC to look up dd's details and very sarcastically asked "so whats this ones surname then.." (realised after it was because of course it couldnt be the same as mine)
She was giving me a prescription for myself, and announced "I presume you dont need a note for work" (I did actually).
To top it all off, you print in the office and go out to main reception to collect from printer and to pay. The very embarrased Receptionist whispered to me that "so sorry xxx, Dr. xxx just presumed you were on a medical card and has printed your prescription in pink, you are going to just have to explain to Pharmacist that you are not on benefits"
Funnily enough, I went to pay, Receptionist kindly said to just give her €80, Dr. x happened to be in hall when I was handing over money and changed completely, patting dd on the head, telling me to ring if I had any concerns..
BTW, am not single, work full time, dh works full time, own our own house etc.. am very lucky.
What really, really annoyed me is my thoughts went to my friend whos partner had tragicly just died in an accident, Shes a great girl, has a beautiful little girl and is more than fully entitled to these benefits - just imagine if she was to be treated like a piece of shit for her circumstances. I know theres a few pulling the piss but it shouldnt tar everyone...
(sorry for bad typing - one hand - feeding baby)