To actually feel really sorry for ex-p

[TheLadyEvenstar]

I sent him a text tonight which was actually quite sarcastic it said

"Thanks a lot, I really appreciate you letting me know where to bring DS1, I am once again left to pick up the pieces"

I got a reply saying

"TLES, I am really sorry. I have spent the weekend in tears, L and I have been having some problems, she is not here and I am moving out"

I replied

"what went wrong? a year ago you 2 were planning to get married and try for a baby"

followed were many text messages between the 2 of us where he was pouring his heart out and apologising repeatedly for upsetting DS1.

I actually feel sorry for him...even though he was an arse to me for years

Why are you even indulging him? His personal life is nothing to do with you, and certainly you shouldn't feel sorry for him. He's an ex, his life now is not your concern

His priority should be his child, whatever is going on with L. I think you should leave it to his friends to help him through his relationship traumas and keep your relationship about you and your son. And if he was an arse to you, he probably is to L too, and probably deserves whatever is going on.

TLES, I don't suppose you are wrong really, you have to maintain some sort of relationship with your ex.

I know a few who are still good friends and lets face it, whether they were an arse or not, if you are still on speaking terms, it's better to be friends for you childs sake.

So I say, good on you.

Agree with Jendaisy

odd thing is we don't normally speak, he was going to see DS1 for the first time in a long time, too long in fact. But i did feel sorry for him, i don't wish him to be unhappy in life.

He should be able to put his son before his relationship. It's what adults do.

You seem to love a good drama.

not really, actually i think it is quite sad for all concerned there are children directly involved and not my son.

I use MN to talk about the things which happen/i see nothing else.

Is he trying to worm his way back into your affections, do you think?

OLKN, I doubt it, he knows i wouldn't go back with him if my life depended on it, i have made that clear more than once lol. Also don't think DP would like that tbh

Ah, I think it's nice when an ex shows you their vulnerabilities. In the cold light of day, they reallize you have ammo, and have to behave reasonably...

BoF lmao i love the way you put things haha

YANBU, just compassionate which is not a bad at all.

Nothing wrong in being kind to someone, you do have a dc child together after all.