Background: we have a shared boundary with our next door neighbour. There's a gate in it, but no legal right of way, because our neighbour's sister used to live here (over five years ago). My husband built a 2ft brick wall with a fencing panel on our side of the boundary to block it up.
Neighbour comes around and tells my husband very rudely that it looks 'awful' and that the fence is 'hers' and that it's not what she wanted and how dare we do it without consulting her (it's on our land apart from anything else). And that she wants x, y or z solutions.
Now maybe we should have asked her, but last time we had a conversation with her about a job that my husband offered to pay for on her porch (guttering, both porches needed doing to stop brick erosion), she said she'd get her husband to do it. Three months later nothing done.
I'm so angry because we've gone out of our way to be pleasant to her since moving in 4 months ago. We're subjected to loud music until gone midnight at least once a week, as well as during the day (and both my husband and I work at home). Her husband and teenage daughter row loudly c.1/week and swear using words that I don't think I've ever heard. And the first time I met her she came around at 10pm asking to borrow a corkscrew. I had bad morning sickness and so was in pyjamas and looked a mess, so explained I was pregnant, to which she asked 'was it planned'? I'd never met the woman before. We take parcels in for them and are generally nice and neighbourly. We've tidied up our front garden, there's contains wheelie bins. And a bath. And she has the cheek to tell my husband that this wall looks a mess. ARGH!!!