AIBU or is DH (food)

[LittleMrsHappy]

We decided last week that I was not going to do a food shop until I used the food in the store cupboard as we have more then enough as well as the freezer (meat & fish) to last us a few weeks, but also for us to have 2 meat free days a week.

So Ive done pretty good and inventing new foods that my dh and DC can eat, Ive made today's meals and Ive put tomorrow's meal in the slow cooker as Im away swimming and also doing my first aid pediatric refresher course tomorrow night.

So tomorrow's evening meals is a bean/lentil casserole (ish) dish, which is butter, kidney, pinto and haricot beans, passatta sauce, red and green lentils, fresh lemon grass, fresh root ginger, shallots, garlic, and mustard and also curry powder and mushrooms, which I was going to do with either fish or rice.

Dh has went in a complete strop and said that hes not eating it, as hes sick of not having proper meals

Is this not a proper meal or am I BU.

We had a discussion about us eating a meat free diet 2 days a week and he was happy about it, so AIBU to stick with our plans for the meat free days or should I just give up.

Were doing it this way due to ds2 (although he cannot eat this meal) and DH so that I dont have to cook 3-4 different dishes a night.

Dh does cook also, but atm due to working circumstances Its down to me at the min.

GrendelsMum - Yes a good example, there may be a small/simple change which could be made which would make it 'feel' like a 'proper meal'

Well StepSideways there comes to a point when you're an adult when you have to get over it and eat a meal that isn't your favourite and be grateful that someone went to the trouble of cooking it for you and accepting that it's actually a lovely meal and it's you (generic) that has the problem wouldn't go amiss either.

Little mrs .. Give him chips n egg!!!

muggglewump - Yes for short periods that is possible, even to eat something you personally don't like and smile and say 'its lovely', im sure a lot of us have had to do that, but, it gets harder for sustained periods, one persons 'lovely meal' is another persons 'oh no not that again', its all down to our own personal perception of food.

I second the bacon, chorizo or pancetta idea. The main purpose of which would be to add flavour, then you wouldn't be putting in lemon grass or other thai spices which don't really go with the earthy nature of pulses, which need robust spicy flavours ime.

I would serve it on a bed of rice with grated parmesan or other strong cheese.

Or with potatoes cooked in with all the other ingredients.

Another nice ingredient would be wilted spinach stirred through in the last two or three minutes before serving.

It sounds delicious to me and DH would eat it (because he'll eat anything, gratefully)

And meatfree days is a great idea (we are more like 5 meatfree at the moment)

But if your DH doesn't fancy it why not suggest he and the kids have fish and chips, and you can all have your casserole together the night after? Or remind him that of course, as he is an adult he is perfectly at liberty to make his own alternative meal that night.

Ummm... am I missing something here...???? Was he joking or stropping in all seriousness?

He needs to get a grip, does he think he lives in a restaurant?

First of all, he should be greatful that you cooked for him.

Secondly, he needs to learn some manners. If someone offers you food, you thank them and you eat it. Just because you married the guy doesnt give him the right to show you any less courtesy than he would anyone else.

Thirdly, The meal you prepared for him was nutricious, imaginative and filling.

If it was your 'job' to feed a grown man which i would argue it is NOT then you did a very satisfactory job of it.

I am shocked! Can anyone tell

Since the OP already stated that he also cooks for her, that hardly seems like a fair attitude, lets turn that argument on it's head, would it be ok for him to cook for her whatever he fancied when it was his turn completely disregarding what she might dislike eating? no, of course not, if it's an equal partnership then I would expect each partner to show each other the same basic courtesy and care when cooking for one another.

Il ove beans and lentils but |i wouldn't eat that.No way do lemongras and galangal go with lentils and kidney beans. And the curry powder and mushrooms...

Just od haricot and butter beans with passata and onons, garlic and so on.Grated cheese over?

All other things being equal, the appropriate response when someone makes a meal for you, saving you the time and effort of preparing something yourself, is to thank them for it.

If you really don't like it then you make/buy yourself something else. Simple.

Unless she deliberately cooked something he doesnt like, and we can assume she didnt because that would be daft, then he should have graciously accepted it, thanked her and then made sure it was him that cooked the next day.

The sentence Dh has went in a complete strop and said that hes not eating it, as hes sick hmm of not having proper meals hmm makes him sound like he behaved childishly and was over the top.