My friend has phoned me really worried this morning. Her and her ex have split up 7 years ago . Their split was less than amicable and they are back and forward to court constantly. Her ex uses her ds aged 8 as a pawn and every time custody arrangements are made tries to push for more and more access. Her ds does not want to go to his fathers house but she tries to encourage contact where possible. Ds1 has just returned from a week at his fathers house. When he returned my friends ds told her he had been asking to come home for four days but his father would not let him. Her son has now told her that when he asked to come home his father tried bribing him with various things. One of his bribes was to see his cousins. whose aunt (her sister) is prohibited by the courts from seeing her son due to various past issues. She was upset his father had let this happen already when last night her son said "All women apart from my fathers wife and Auntie want to sleep with black men. Daddy told me." I don't know what to advise her as her husbands earnings are slightly too high for her to be eligible for legal aid and the legal advice centre near her house has said they can not help her because my ex has already received help and it would be a conflict of interest. What can she do?