To have wanted to give this girl a clip 'round the ear????..

[stanausauruswrecks]

So, I took the DC to the park yesterday for a bit of a run about. We went into the playground which has equipment for small babies/toddlers and larger children. DS was playing on the climbing frame, so decided to take DD for a go on the baby swings.
There are two baby swings with a bench next to them which was occupied by a mum, dad and gran, with girl of about 10 hanging about. One swing had a little girl being pushed by his mum, and the other swing occupied by a boy of about 3 being pushed by his sister. So, we stand by and wait our turn.
Toddler boy decides to get out of the swing and his sister, aged about 9 (but way too big for this swing) climbs onto it. So I asked if she would mind letting my use the swing for DD. Girl says yes, no problem and climbs off.
All of a sudden, other girl pushes in front, grabs the toddler boy and sticks him back in the swing. I say, "excuse me, but we were waiting and it's our turn" In the mean time other mum vacates the swing , so DD goes in there.
Rude girl then starts to berate me for putting DD in the swing saying that she's too small. I tell her that as she is my daughter, I'll make that decision. She continues making comments so I tell her that it's none of her business. She then tells me to "fuck off you old bitch!" All the while she is looking over to her parents and smirking. They are sat on the bench, smoking fags (there's a whole other AIBU post ) and laughing at her.
I decided that it wasn't worth talking to the parents - they could hear what she was saying, obviously they were happy for her daughter to behave in such a manner towards someone.
So AIBU to want to give her (and her parents) a clip 'round the ear for being such a rude, obnoxious brat, and how would you have handled it???

Were we in the same park yesterday, per chance?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/944793-To-have-wanted-to-give-this-girl-a-clip-39

YANBU though it sounds like the girl's parents need more of a clip round the ear than the girl does - what sort of enviorment are the raising their child in that she feels that is acceptable behaviour.
Take heart from the fact that your DC are being brought up to be much better people.

Have found your thread now! No, you park sounds much nicer than our

I think you're both in the wrong. The girl should not have been swearing at you, but an adult shouldn't stand by a swing being used by children and make remarks to try and get them to stop using it.

There aren't turns on park equipment. If children are playing on it, you can't use it and you should go and do something else.

YANBU!! I read this really hoping you were a troll tbh. I can't believe any parents would just stand by and laugh while their DC spoke to somebody like this. Disgusting behaviour.

I think you sounded a little bit 'entitled' in your approach to the original girl who was about to climb into the swing - and your (heavy handed ???) intervention probably led to what followed. However, the second girl who challenged you and started swearing and name calling was horrendous. Not much you can do about her - you won't get through to someone with no basics of courtesy or respect, not a great deal of point in trying. Just likely to exacerbate the situation.

You ask what I would have done - I would have 'let' the 9 year old use the toddler swing for a while (although sceptical as to why she would feel the need to),and only if the wait for the next available swing became overtly long would I then politely have asked if my child could now have a turn as we had been waiting for some time....

Shame you can not neuter parents like hers before they breed more vile life forms

Mostly though I go to parks at the 'right end of town'

There are swings available for older children in this park - hence my asking if she would mind letting my baby daughtetr have a go in the baby swing.
MillyR - you seem to have a different experience of parks to mine. In the parks I have used it's the norm to have a go on the swings and if there is someone waiting, you get off and let them have a go. After all it's a public park, and the equipment belongs to everyone, so no one child should be able to hog it as if it were their own.
HMC - this was the " right end of town"

YANBU to want to clout her but you would be unreasonable and out of order to actually do it.

10 year olds do still want to play on the baby swings, though, I've no idea why, but they do, so I wouldn't have asked her to get off.And I certainly wouldn't want to give her a clip '"round the ear"

I would be shocked that her parents accepted such language though.

There aren't turns on park equipment! Are you out of your MIND? Of course there are. When there is a queue of 5 or 6 people to use the swings you had better fucking wait your turn.

I don't understand-were the 2 girls both sisters of the toddler boy?
I think you had a bit of a cheek to tell the girl to get off the swing so your DD could have a go, and I think that was the catalyst that sparked the whole thing.Of course the girl shouldn't have sworn at you but I wonder if you came across as being a bit up yourself.

YANBU in wanting to clip her around the ear. I favour an 'accidental' foot-rest ram into the shins.

Wow that girl was rude.

But I also think that there is a common parent type where 'entitlment' is the key word.

vile life forms?