22nd week pregnant and DH is not supportive!

[MeghanMc]

Dear all,

Currently I am 22nd week pregnant with our first child and for the last few nights, I have been having trouble sleeping. The pregnancy seems to wake me up in the middle of the night and just find it hard to fall back asleep (nothing to do with indigestion or needing the loo). My DH snores badly and because I always have been a heavy sleeper, it hasn't bothered me for the last 7 years of being together.

And because of his snoring, I was finding it hard to fall back asleep so I moved into the spare bedroom (much better mattress). I still woke up middle of the night, but at least I don't have his snoring to keep me awake. Still very broken sleep and feeling exhausted the next day.

He can't seems to understand that even though I get broken sleep, at least I don't have to be kept awake by his snoring. As far as he is concerned, since I am getting disturbed sleep, why am I still want to sleep in a different bedroom?

Yesterday, when my husband was driving home, I fell asleep and woke up feeling sick, so I told him to brake more gently as I was feeling ill. He said I have been complaining about his snoring and now his driving (apparently, according to him, that he has been driving gently as he knew I am prone to motion sickness with my pregnancy).

I told him I am 5 months pregnant and is it hard for him to be understanding! So I left the conversation there and refuse to talk to him since last night.

Still feeling annoyed and boiling just now! Dear ladies, any suggestion or advice?

Kind Regards,
Meghan

Poor you. I think your dh is being a bit of a berk. He is not pg so has no understanding of how hard it can be for some women.I'm sure someone will be along in a minute with some proper advice.

Im not sure how your dh isn't being 'supportive', he just sounds like a bit insensitive tbh. Maybe get some earplugs for when you go bed?

you could just try to originally settle in the spare room if dh keeps on snoring... although i find that my dh stops snoring if you kick him 3 times.

1 kick - then he snores again
2nd kick - he snores again,
3rd kick - works a charm

also how does he lie? i usually ask him if i can cuddle into his back as the snoring ceases that way

orrrr you could get anti snore pillows. i dont think they are very expensive and they do work

can anyone tell i have a husband who snores

I also have a husband who snores and I have the same issue as you of waking up, not needing the loo, and then have trouble falling asleep.

I normally stroke his back (if he's on his side), for whatever reason that usually seems to work. If it doesn't, it disturbs him a bit and he changes positions which can also help with the snoring.

Good luck!

Dear Ladies,

Thanks for all the kind advice. I will try stroking his back first (thanks TarheelMama ), if that fails, I will try kicking him (thanks to WitchyWooWoo). I might also try using earplugs .

I do miss waking up next to him. But the choice of getting decent sleep (and feel grumpy for the rest of the day) or waking up next to a snoring DH, the choice is clear!

You girls are a star, does make my day seems less miserable esp. for a friday.

Thanks,
Meghan

My DH snores, but only when he is sleeping on his back, not when he is on his side. So it's positional for him apparently.

Maybe if you explain to him that it's not his driving giving you trouble, it's your stomach that is causing the problem, you just need him to make a few adjustments until you are feeling better. Semantics, isn't it? But honestly, sometimes men are thinking, just not the same way we are. But then he doesn't feel like your blaming HIM for you feeling sick.

I'm really mean, when he wakes me up snoring I wake him up to tell him to stop. The broken sleep has made him make an effort to sleep in snore free positions.

he must have idiot expectant dad syndrome, mine has it as well.

Thanks for the kind advice. We have almost resolved the problem, I did try stroking his back or arm, kind of disturb his snoring and quickly try to sleep again.

He had 3 nose operation (yes, three!) when he was a teenager (wasn't a nose job, it's a shame!) and cause him to have a block nose/perforated nasal septum, so he can't help his snoring. Hopefully after giving birth, I will be a heavy sleeper again......fingers crossed!