sick of DH behaving like a teenager!

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My DH is the most sensible person ordinarily. But let him out for a pint with his friends and he turns into a teenage lad with absolutely to self control or consideration for me. Take last night, he popped out for what I thought were a few quiet drinks, 3.30am I wake up and he's still not home. This leaves me wide awake and wondering what the fxxk he's thinking of! He's disturbed my sleep which is much needed and more I feel this behaviour doesn't match the man he presents to me. He slept at a mates last night and still not home. Is he going to work today? Do I care?

Does he do it often? Or is it just a sort of 'I'm freeeeee' childish thing?

"Let him out" is he your partner or your pet?

Did he phone to let you know? He's a grown adult and you're not his mother.....are you?

He doesn't go out that often. Maybe two-three times a month. But that's a lot more than I get out.Maybe its my lack of a life that erks me the most?

If he said he'd be back at a certain time, then stayed out all night without letting you know where he was than that is really bloody inconsiderate at any age. He's a grown up and there's nothing wrong with a night out, but letting you lie there worrying where he is just isn't on.

Arrange a night out for you with your friends and then just don't come home. See how he feels about that.

My DH does this.
It used to bother me...a lot
I've realised it's not worth fighting over as he's going to do it anyway.
In fact I love it when he goes out, gives me a break from the overgrown teenager and a whole double bed to myself

I can't very well complain because I have been known to do this, no where near as often as DH but still.
We all like a bit of freedom now and again

and he's out tonight! Woohoo!
No cooking tonight, I can watch whatever the hell I want to on TV and the whole bed to myself to stretch out
Freeeeeeeedommmm!!!

Yes must get a life! I want him to go out and enjoy himself. I just don't want to be disturbed when he comes in and I'd kind of like to know what kind of a night he's planning. Maybe I am trying to mother him. Must stop that!! Just that he's such a control freak and I end up wanting to give him a taste of his own medicine. I used to be so chilled.

Well then what you need to address si the imbalance. If he wants to go out and play, he needs to do his share of looking after the DC so you get time off to do what you want.

I think as long as you're allowed to go out until 3:30am too there is no problem. he's a grown man.