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to be REALLY tempted to refer to tell someone I don't actually know that I think they're an idiot

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AbsOfCroissant · 08/04/2010 13:45

Gnnnnnnnnnnnnarrrrrrrrr. (just needed to get that out).
I probably am being unreasonable, but anyway, this is really getting up my nose.

So, I have a cousin. She's 18, so is kind of dim at the moment (in the annoying teenager way), but otherwise incrediby intelligent. She got the highest marks in her school (very academic and pushy) for her final exams and is in her first year of university. Now, she had/has a boyfriend who, from my encounters on FB (lame, I know) and via family comments (cousin etc. is in a different country), comes across as a complete and utter spoilt brat/prat. For e.g., when they started going out my aunt was on and on about how this genius boyfriend of hers was either going to become a movie star (he's not good looking at all. He closest resembles Camilla Parker-Bowles in the celebrity stakes) or a lawyer. Whatever. He obviously thinks highly of himself. He then broke up with my good looking and highly intelligent cousin (I don't know if he's seeing anyone else), but they are still friends and he hangs around all the time.

So, he and my cousin then headed off to university together in Cape Town, of all places. Possibly one of the best cities in the world. His parents bought and furnished an apartment for him so the poor little dear didn't have to stay in accomodation with other people. After a week he gave up, said it was too hard and moved back home. He's now trying to convince my cousin to drop out of university (via FB, and presumably other means). Gnnnnnnaaarrrrrrrrr. I hope she's not so much of a dimwit that she actually listens to him, but this has just got me so wound up. Maybe I should just fly out there to punch him in the face, and then have a vacation. Actually, I might do that.

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AbsOfCroissant · 08/04/2010 13:46

Sorry the title is a bit mixed up. I meant, to tell someone I don't know they're an idiot.

I should probably just get my coat now

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wukter · 08/04/2010 13:50

He sounds horrendous, Abs.

Maybe your cousins parents could bribe her with the promise of a trip to Capetown to see him if she gets good marks in her year end exams? It can be their heavy weapon when all else is exhausted.

Throwing mony at the problem, I know, great if you have it.

Mouseface · 08/04/2010 13:50

Nope, I'd say something to her to find out if she wants to stay. If she does then your support will be great.

Maybe convince her that this tosser young man is not worthy of her time if he gives up on things so easily.

wukter · 08/04/2010 13:50

Money, gah

WitchyWooWoo · 08/04/2010 13:53

yanbu, how dare he try and drag your cousin down with him

fwiw i dropped out of uni, a few months my friend did. it just happened that we weren't cut out for it. i didn't coax her into leaving...

i would be really pissed off though if she did end up leaving because of him.. has she still got a thing for him?

onagar · 08/04/2010 13:53

YANBU Someone will be along to tell you that threatening violence is very bad, but at least as a daydream it sounds very satisfying So does the vacation.

You can only hope that since your cousin probably worked hard to get the results she will lean towards keeping at it.

AbsOfCroissant · 08/04/2010 13:54

Yay! I thought you'd all come on here and go "loser. Get a life". He just WINDS me up so much. He's the kind of twat who has lots of pouty posy pictures of himself on FB, because he thinks he's soooooooooo gorgeous. But he isn't.

From what I've heard, he's pretty spoilt (very wealthy family, gets everything he wants), so dropped out because he just couldn't be arsed. I don't think there's any underlying depression or anything (as far as I'm aware).

Hm. Will think of how to approach this with cousin. This is what he posted: "You, should really quit now. Why are you wastung your time with something as pointless (in your case) as university?". Gnnnnnnnnarrrr

I don't get why this is annoying me so much.

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AbsOfCroissant · 08/04/2010 13:55

Well, part of the reason why they may have broken up (I'm not entirely sure whether or not they have), is because he might be gay. I can understand if she does still have a thing for him (despite him being an idiot) if this is actually the case.

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Mouseface · 08/04/2010 13:56

Booked a flight, I'm off to sort him for you Abs! I can't believe he said that to her - TW@T!!

Mouseface · 08/04/2010 13:58

Ooooo you updated as I typed.

Gay or not, if she wants to stay at uni, that's her business no?

Or is she staying in the accomodation that his folks bought? Is that why he wants her to drop out?

AbsOfCroissant · 08/04/2010 14:02

No, she's in halls of residence. She's complained about the food (part of the joys of halls of residence) and that she has lots of work. What did she expect? Honestly, kids these days (I may sound 90, but I'm 28).

He's got his name down as xxx Sexface xxxxxx
Maybe I should post "Don't listen to Twatface. He's an idiot" on her wall. Or just fly out - I think doing it in person is the best. Could MN do a whiparound please to pay for the ticket?

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WitchyWooWoo · 08/04/2010 14:04

i would post that on fb, probably find you have a lot of supporters _

Mouseface · 08/04/2010 14:11

So, just to clarify Abs -

  1. She is in halls of residence, not staying in the apartment that his folks bought.

  2. He may (or may not) be gay so isn't interested in her in that way.

  3. They are no longer together.

  4. He's dropped out of uni because he's a lightweight and mummy and daddy can support his every whim.

  5. He wants her to drop out too.

WHY? What has it got to do with him? I don't get why he cares what she does or am I missing something?

AbsOfCroissant · 08/04/2010 14:13

Correct on all accounts.

I don't know. Maybe because they're in different cities now and he misses her? Or he thinks he's right about everything?

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Mouseface · 08/04/2010 14:16

The latter me thinks. I'd def speak to her and find out if she gives a shit wants him back. Hope she does stay if she wants to.

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