TO HAVE REPORTED A NETMUMS POST

[ilovesprouts]

i will cut a long story short.. i go on netmums {waits for the flaming],there was a post on a local play centre asking for ideas for new play days etc ,i have a ds whith sn ,and have made great friends whith other mummys at my ds sn school. so asked about a session for sn kids .and one poster asked if they was a session for normal kids ,her post made me i made a complaint ,and her post was removed was i bu or not

by the way
my dd has sn
she is not an sn kid

Ooh. Hark at her ^

hark at who?

2Shoes.

I sort of get what the poster on Netmums meant, she didn't fit it into category for the groups available.But phrased it badly, i'm not sure that she meant children with special needs aren't normal

Have to agree the SN is NOT the child/person who has SN!!

Just as my dad HAD a disability he was not a disabled man

why because my dd is a person.....

oh dear

Elle, please please be careful with the language you use to describe people with special needs

Of course your DD is a person and you can refer to her as a child with SN, but no need to get sniffy about other people who choose to refer to their DCs as SN children/kids... That's all.

Erm BALD... I don't think I've used any language to refer to special needs, have I?

Ignoring the developing row for a moment- clearly the poster was BU. We comment all the time on unreasonable interacions with other people- why not ones on a forum? I don't think it's a case of tarring all NMs with the same brush. Even the OP says she uses both.

right back at you
no need to get sniffy with me.
I will post what I like.

Whatever, 2shoes.

I just get ruffled by people trying to make a point when I don't think that any offence was meant in the first place.

you said 'ooh hark at her' when 2shoes posted to clarify that her dd has sn, and that she is not an sn kid

but you meant no offence by that of course

sigh

did i miss something....I never said I took offence. just made a comment

I meant "hark at her" making points, not hark at her clarifying that her child has SN.

Why do some people try to read offence into things?

I do think you'd have been far more reasonable to have questioned the poster about her seemingly offensive post before reporting her and then coming here to SHOUT about it tbh. I know this is AIBU and is more of an "anything goes" forum, but I just don't see the point in getting a post you felt was offensive removed from one forum, to just come over to another and go on about it. Why didn't you just discuss it with the poster? They hadn't personally attacked you, just made an ill-thought out, ignorant comment. I think YWBU to have reported the comment without questioning it.

Perhaps if you had commented on the thread it would have made her, and anyone else reading the thread, think a little more carefully about the language that they use and the offence that they could cause.
Said poster may well now feel that you over-reacted and noone else will be aware of the point. (I don't think you did overreact but imagine post being reported may make her a little defensive.)

I often think it is better to be unreasonable on the same forum that has behaved unreasonably. Only we aren't best placed to allocate the Moral High Ground you may, or may not, occupy on netnumbs.