to hate the term 'fiance'?

[BattyKoda]

I'm engaged, but I can't bear to call my DP my fiance, I don't know why, it just makes me cringe, as it does when I hear others say it. Am I alone?

LittleRedDragon - I hate 'oh, your engaged, but you have children?!' look that I get when someone knows that I'm due to get married, and not already married, even though I have children. (I don't know how I know that that's what they're thinking, but I'm sure it is!) and then, like you say the subsequent interegation about our wedding plans !

Crusade it is!

I like it and regret not being able to say it for long! It's "partner" gives me the heebie jeebies. It's so PC, anodyne, non-commital. Yeuch.

i am engaged and only use the word 'fiance' when talking about the wedding really. i use it to mean 'the groom to be'.

e.g. i'll say to the registry office, my fiance will call and pay on his credit card or i'll say to the caterer i'll check with my fiance

but in general life i call him my partner usually to strangers, or by his name to people i know.

one of the things i'm looking forward to when we're married is saying 'husband' rather than 'partner' which can sound a bit 'business partner' in the wrong context or 'boyfriend' which sounds a bit odd since he'll be 40 next year.

I hate the word. My sister-in-law has had about a dozen fee-onc-eh's. She has never had a husband though, stupid slapper.

Fiancee sound like you're saying, "we are getting married you know, we are, really! WE FUCKEN ARE!!"

I don't like "partner" at all. SOunds like you're in a business partnership. There is nothing sexy about it whatsoever and it is a relic from the 80's when people were trying to legitimise a serious relationship, or a gay one, when marriage was not going to happen. Nowadays it's an irrelevant term and as I said, really not "hot".

Call your DP your "boyfriend". You'll feel like you're on a date and you'll both get some tonight.