in being so upset at losing an emerald necklace?

[hippopo]

I have lost a beautiful emerald and diamond necklace that my husband bought for me when we were backpacking around Brazil for my 30th birthday. I also wore it to our wedding a year later and the whole wedding took on an emerald theme with emerald bridesmaid dresses ect. We dont own many expensive things and this is the most expensive thing we own and there is no way we can afford to replace it. Also due to long story it has not been insured since Oct/Nov time.

I last wore it in August to a wedding and now cannot find it although I do remember bringing it home. I have absolutley no idea what I have done with it although I have a habit of hiding it in strange places.

Since Aug I have had a major clearout of each room and seriously decluttered everywhere. Turned house upside down yesterday and cannot find it. Will be going to my locla charity shope today to see on off chance I have donated it (accidentally in a handbag or something) and also thinking of trying hypnothearpy to jog my memory.

I have been so upset about this and am trying to put it in perspective as it is at the end of day only an object. I am 27 weeks pregnant with 1st child and it doesn't help me or baby being so upset and after trying for 2 years would have happily swapped necklace for ability to conceive back then.

Any tips on how to find or how to get over this upset quickly would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks
x

It's in the house somewhere.

I agree with the person who said to stop looking.

I lost my grandmother's two diamond rings recently. I looked in every pocket, every trinket box, every drawer. It was only when I stopped obsessing about them that I got an inkling of where they might be. I checked somewhere I'd already looked (jewellery pouch in my bedside drawer - so obvious!) and there they were.

There's a wierd but brilliant website somewhere which has 12 steps to find any lost thing. Most of what it says is commonsense but it does have a very interesting idea that many lost things are in the right place but something small has happened to either move it slightly or move something else to obscure the thing you've lost. I would suggest that everytime you remember a possible place that you might have hidden it, you go to that place and look around it.

I had a similar experience-the necklace was a family heirloom.I remembered having it at dd's wedding.2 years later my cousin asked for her dd to borrow it for her wedding day.I couldnt find it!!The whole family was that I had lost it.I was heartbroken-I rang police,I contacted hotel from dd's wedding.We had moved house a few weeks after dd's wedding.One day I was looking for a green biro[dont ask] and looked in a carrier bag in the meter cupboard.There was no pen but there was a little box with the necklace!It had been in the car-dh remembered cleaning out car and putting non rubbish in bag to sort later.My cousin's dd wore the necklace.I bet yours isnt lost-you will find it one day when you arent looking I am sure.Good Luck.

Poor you - I hate losing things.

I read this thread earlier and it made me really sad, so I was having a think...

why don't you start a necklace jar? Spare change goes into it, and extra cash you have laying around from time to time etc. It might take years, but you'll eventually save enough. Then you can get a replica made and you'll know how much you saved and worked for it so it will be special.

If it turns up in the meantime, you'll have a bit of cash to celebrate, and if you forget about the necklace jar then that will mean you are 'over' the necklace.

Just a thought. Hope it shows up somewhere ridiculous so you can laugh about it!

I really hope you find it.

I lost a (cheap) silver crucifix my dh gave me on our wedding day. Its not got any monetary value but I still feel like crying when I think of it

Does your dirty laundry basket have a lining? Could it be in there?

The back of the wardrobe?

I remember my DH losing the expensive watch I had bought him for christmas. We looked everywhere for it. Anyways, we gave it up as gone forever and I bought him another one for his birthday. About a week after his birthday I found the original watch in one of his shoes.

Maybe get your DH to buy you another necklace and then you'll find the original plus have an extra

UPDATE!!

butadream are you phsychic or something?

Well I actually tried hypnosis to help me try and locate it and although I still couldn't remember I was focused on a certain room during the session. It did help me to let go and hope that it will turn up when I least expect it.

Well what do you know at 39+1 I was sorting out the chest of drawers in guest room and there it was, just lying there under a pile of knickers!! I am sure I must have looked there before but have no recollection of putting it there either!

Anyway am soooooo happy to have found it and think it might be a sign baby is on his way soon. Fingers crossed!

wow glad you found it!!!!!!!!

don't lose it again!!!!!!!!!

Thanks ZZZenAgain

I have given DH responsibility for it and have made him promise not to buy me anything extravagant when baby is born - just chocolates and other nice food and maybe flowers!! But nothing I can lose.

Aww, that's so sweet. I'm glad that you found it and also giggling at the accuracy of butadream's prediction.

Great! Now can everyone help me find my mum's diamond and emeraly eternity ring that disapeared after she died?

House, flat, storage, jewellers.... everything checked. Bags, pockets, boxes - you name it, we looked there. She never went anywhere without it - in every single photo of her she had it on. She died in hospital and it is very very likely that she wore it when she went in (it was for a routing check up but they kept her in until the end). DB can't remember if she gave it to him for safe-keeping.

I even tried a psychic to see if she could 'see' where it had got to. About as useful as a glass hammer.

ooh hippo NO!!!!!!!!!! A pair of earings. A pair of earings to match.

That is amazing! I bet you screamed so loud when you saw it that the neighbours called for help!