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AIBU to find this a turn off and insensitive?

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Tinykins · 06/04/2010 22:13

My husband and I were going to have some "quality time" in the bedroom tonight. I mentioned that I had a little bit of thrush and as he was going to the chemist to buy condoms I asked him to pick me up canesten combi as well.

When he came home a few minutes ago I was sat on the sofa and he threw a bag down on the seat beside me and said "Here, decide which one of those you wanna use first tonight."

Inside the bag was a packet of condoms and canesten combi.

My face dropped a bit (though I said nothing) as I just thought it was a bit insensitive, and not exactly seductive ifkwim.

He saw my face and asked what was wrong. I said nothing but he pressed me on it so I just said that I thought what he did and said ie throwing the bag at me with that comment was a bit insensitive and crass. He got annoyed and huffy and told me to lighten up and stomped off to another room to watch tv when i had been expecting him to sit with me to watch something we always watch together.

I dont think sex is gonna happen now anyway. Why the fuck ask me what is wrong and then throw a hissy fit when you get the answer?

AIBU to be annoyed about this?

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ElleBing · 06/04/2010 22:15

YANBU to expect a little sensitivity but I'm not entirely sure how much of a turn-on it would be for DH to have to collect your thrush remedy when a night of passion had been pencilled in.

Could you have not just got it yourself? Mind you, I don't let DH know that I do any any abnormal bodily functions so perhaps I'm just being a bit coy on your behalf...

wonka · 06/04/2010 22:17

Maybe he found buying your canesten not exactly seductive too hence the throwing and comment?

JustMyTwoPenceWorth · 06/04/2010 22:19

Agree. Not very romantic of you, was it? and you are cross with him for turning you off? sorry, but that's really funny.

junglist1 · 06/04/2010 22:20

Sounds like a joke that came out wrong.

Dominique07 · 06/04/2010 22:21

Go and talk to him, and get your 'quality time'.

Eurostar · 06/04/2010 22:21

Doesn't Canesten cause/make likely latex condoms to split/weaken like any non water based lube or oil does? Thought you couldn't use them both together

Shaz10 · 06/04/2010 22:21

Even with condoms I'm not sure I'd want 'quality time' when thrush is around. Sorry.

brockleybelle · 06/04/2010 22:22

lol junglist

Mouseface · 06/04/2010 22:23

Some man folk don't do thrush etc...... not a turn on for either of you.

FlyingFig · 06/04/2010 22:24

I couldn't even contemplate having sex after inserting the dreaded foaming fizz-bomb that is a Canesten pessary

The whole scenario doesn't sound very romantic, sorry!

cyb · 06/04/2010 22:24

sex and thrush, yeuch

ThatsNotMyBag · 06/04/2010 22:24

I'm just amazed you still were up for a shag even when you have thrush. When I had it it just itched like buggery and I would have socked DH one if he'd have suggested it, I was far to busy scratching.

RockSteady · 06/04/2010 22:25

not sure why you're upset really. was it because he mentioned your thrush?

cyb · 06/04/2010 22:26

perhaps he could apply your Hemorrhoid treatment while he's down there

ANd you could do his verucae plasters

runnybottom · 06/04/2010 22:27

I'd say you are way over-thinking this. He was probably thinking about getting some and not a lot else, and meant absolutely nothing by the comment.

Actually DH just read your OP and says "Whats her problem? He's right, she should lighten up" and agrees with me.

RockSteady · 06/04/2010 22:27

anyhoo, thrush is a turn off. Not you or your husbands fault, and I think you were a bit tetchy

FlyingFig · 06/04/2010 22:29

YANBU - there quite clearly should have been some Vagisil in the party bag

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Tinykins · 06/04/2010 22:31

Ok ok hands up, it seems I have been a bit tetchy.
I blame the combination of thrush, tiredness and PMT, actually not sure now why I ever thought sex was a good idea tonight 'cept I thought it would make me feel better.

FWIW the thrush is very mild, but i know that it will get worse (I get it a lot) and so was going to start on the canesten tomorrow.

Anyway, thanks all, seems IABU then!!

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thisisyesterday · 06/04/2010 22:32

so go jump him then! lol

JustMyTwoPenceWorth · 06/04/2010 22:33

wow, you caved in early

Yes. unreasonable. go give him a hug, y'meanie.

MrsSawdust · 06/04/2010 22:33

Fuckinghell, I wish I had the choice to go and have sex with my dh right now. I've been away with dd for 4 days (not had sex for about 2 weeks before that too), I've been travelling home today while me and dh have been sending each other filthy text messages all day; we are on a SERIOUS promise ... and now dd is refusing to go to sleep. There is no WAY on this earth I would let a minor little blokish comment like that stand in my way.

I suggest to take those condoms, go into the room he is in and tell him you'll be using those first. See how quickly his attention changes focus from the tv to you.

And please tell my dd to go to sleep NOW. [frustrated emoticon]

FlyingFig · 06/04/2010 22:34

Start on the Canesten tonight and tomorrow night might be a better one all round

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Tinykins · 06/04/2010 22:50

You guys make me laugh, I am off now to kiss and make up !!

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