to give this as a present or not?

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It is my sisters 13th birthday soon. Not quite sure what to get her but I was having a declutter recently and in my charity shop box went a present I had a while ago that I have never used.

It is a really nice present and I do like it but I know it is something I will never use. It is a nail art kit with a dvd of instructions. Loads of colours with it and tools etc. I have seen it on sale for £25 which is much more that I would spend on my sister usually but I thought that it may actually be a good present to give her.

The only problem is, I did open the box when I got it to have a look inside and the bit where the tape would have been is ripped. Nothing inside has been used or opened though.

Would you give it as a present or get something else and put it back in the charity shop box? AIBU for wanting to give this?

Give it to her, she'll love it.

If it was me I would save the nail art for her for another day and get her something else instead if it's so obvious that it's been opened.

No. Sounds lovely.

Put lots of tape on it, make it hard to open, then she'll think she's ripped it getting in

JMTPW what a good idea!

I'm sneaky, me

Depends how old it is - if the varnish/glue is too old, it'll not work well.

I don't think it matters that it is either 'recycled' or that you have opened it (a bit of tape will fix that), but how would her (your) parents feel about her having it? If you think she would be allowed to use it, then I think it's a great present!! If all the colours are quite bold, you could also get her a soft colour as well.

agree with JMTPW but would probably also buy her a little something else that isn't very expensive but would maybe 'go' with the art set- such would be my guilt at giving an old pressie.

Give it.
Put another sticker over the ripped one or take everything out and put it in another bag?
I recycle tonnes of things.

oh give it to her - she will love it

There's no rule that presents have to be new, just something you think the recipient would like.

YANBU give her it if you really think she'd like it

ChippinIn made me laugh when you said about it being something she would be allowed to use. She has her belly button pierced (at 12 , I think her mum (we are half sisters) will let her use strong coloured nail varnish.

Blimey - belly button at 12??

Right, well, guessing it would be a great gift then!

As an aside, can children get piercings anywhere so long as the parent gives permission?? Anyone know?

No idea, but I'm guessing as she had it done quite a while ago and doesnt look older for her age that they must do it with permission. Her mum is the type that would let her do pretty much what she likes. I remember her son drinking lager at 13 at a BBQ just because my (older) brothers were and she has to feel that my brothers and her son are not treated any differently. I am distancing myself from these loons tbh.