overprotective?

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Am I being over protective to worry about sending my dd who's 3 to a birthday party at a house of a boy she knows at nursery. I don't know exactly where they live(it's somewhere in the next street), their teenage daughter says she'll pick her up and my daughter is going to be the only guest apart from the family. I don't know if I'm over reacting! I only know them from the school gate

I wouldn't let a teenager I don't know be responsible for my c hild getting to and from a party.
YANBU.

I wouldnt send my 3 year old to a party on his own, unless it was to a really good friend's child's party that they know well - they are still so small and can get overwhelmed by being in a new place with strange people. So no I dont think you're being overprotective - if the parent isnt invited at that age, its a little strange.

Crazy to let a stranger pick up your 3 year old to take her to a house you don't know to spend time with people who are not friends.

I'd deffo be taking my 3 yr old and I think Id stay unless they were good mates and I knew the family well. And I don't consider myself an overprotective parent.. But perhaps I am.

I'm glad you all agree.I've met the mum and dad as we some times walk to school together. but i haven't seen inside their house and I know they've got dogs.I was just taken by surprise today because the party had been mentioned a week ago but I haven't seen them since. Today their daughter turned up with my dd's friend and said was she still coming to the party I said yes and she said ok I'll pick her up tomorrow at 4 o'clock. I don't think my brain had switched into things like oh I'm not bringing her then until she'd walked off. and I've no way of contacting them!

Why don't you walk round with her, when you get there say your child gets a bit upset if she doesn't really know people so would they mind if you stayed.

Yeah I thought of doing that as well.My daughter is very shy and to be honest I don't think she'll go without me(fingers crossed)

I've never been to a 3 year old birthday party where I wasn't also invited to stay...that's a bit odd...I would just go with your DC.

YANBU

I would not ever let my 3 yr old go somewhere alone to a place I didn't know with people I didn't know.
No way.

And I am not an overprotective mum.

Just go along as well.

I am so unprotective I'm virtually negligent, but I would accompany her there myself, and stay.
No reason not to go, but that's the way I'd insist on it being done.

I rang the Mum this morning and said that my dd was upset about going on her own. She said of course come with her. So now the party's over I went and stayed with her thanks for everyone's advice, it just gave me the confidence to do what I wanted to!

go too