to wear black to a wedding?

[OrganicHairbrush]

The only dress I have which both still fits and is BFable is plain black. Could I get away with it for a wedding?

I'm sleep-deprived and feeling extremely ill, so it'll take every milligram of energy I have to actually make it to the wedding. So I really don't want to buy anything new in case I don't make it.

Am I commiting a social crime by contemplating black?

(If so, can anyone point me to a website selling cheap, BF-friendly wedding wear?)

You could look very elegant and classy in black perhaps by teaming it with cream accesories?

poor you hope you are feeling better soon.

My mum wore black to her own wedding. YANBU.

If it's a smart dress which will stop you feeling stressed about shopping for a new one, who cares? If you're BFing, presumably you'll be holding a baby at least part of the time - they will be enough colour, as will a light jacket or a necklace or earrings.

TBH, I thought the only wedding faux pas was to wear all-white clothes.

Wear what you like. Sounds like you'll be doing extremely well to get there at all!

If you feel black is too sombre (although I tend to think sophisticated and understated) then you could wear bright red heels with it or something, or a colourful pashmina...

Can you ask the bride what she thinks? Some might really be unhappy about it- I am pretty chilled in life I think - but I am also superstitious that way re black and weddings.

However, if you teamed it with cream accessories as nickschick said, maybe with a pashmina and cream shoes, possibly even a brightly coloured corsage you would un-blacken it.

Yes, DW wore a little black sleveless dress to a wedding shortly after DS1 was born with a big stylish statement hat. It worked well during the day and at the evening do as well with a subtle pink pashmina.

Possibly a better choice than white

i've never thought twice about wearing black to a wedding.

What would Coco Chanel do? Wear black, of course.

I've worn black to weddings but dressed it up with a nice, coloured corsage and clutch bag or whatever. Black for weddings is under-rated IMO. I hate the pastel shades that crop up at this time of year for the wedding guest market.

Absolutely NBU. If you are making the effort to go then who could criticize your choice of outfit unless it were a big meringue white dress.

Bright accessories or big chunky bold jewellery will make all the difference. Try not to go for insipid colours though deep shades of pink, turquoise, emerald green will all look fab. If you're a bit sleep deprived it'll make you feel brighter and less washed out too if you look good.

Do you have the chance to shop? You could do it online if you have time then you could get a few options and see what looks best. Send the rest back.

Freind wore black with all red accessories to her BILs wedding and looked really striking, really stood out amongst all the florals and swirly stuff.

I wore black trousers and a black jacket to a family wedding with a lilac top. Didn't think too much about it tbh, I knew the bride wouldn't be looking at me.

You're absolutely NBU and you're not committing any breaches of etiquette either.
Besides, if it were my wedding, and I'd invited you there because you were my friend and I wanted you to be there, I'd just be glad you came, and wouldn't care what you were wearing. I'm sure most people would feel the same way.

YANBU

I am wearing a black, tailored shift dress for a wedding next month. (The only thing that flatters my post baby curves ) Am going to wear dark pink high heels, a corsage and a smile!

I've worn black to a wedding before.
Jazz it up with some colour in your choice of shoes, hat, wrap, handbag etc.

Well, that's unanimous then. Thank you.

I've just found a lovely bright wrap-type cardigan-thingamy which M&S can deliver. Even if I don't make it to the wedding, it'll go well with jeans or something too...

Black looks great. A smart option that only the most Zilla of Bridezillas could act up about. Bright wrap-type cardigan thingamy sounds splendid too.

I wore black to a wedding when I was pregnant. I wore a pale green jacket and looked lovely. Most importantly I was comfortable.

So, of course YANBU.

I've worn black to quite a lot of weddings - with a green and gold tunic, a red silk top and pashmina and in the form of black background with white spots on a dress. Nobody has ever thrown me out....

Thinking about it, I can't even remember what most of the guests wore to my wedding!

One of my friends wore black to our wedding, and, other than a couple of comedy comments (from my Dad, who's known said friend since she was tiny) about being at the wrong kind of event (ho ho ho), I thought she looked very elegant - she even wore a black hat. An American friend changed into an LBD for our evening do (slightly random - no one else changed) Another friend wore black whilst pregnant, to a wedding we went to together, and she teamed it with a cream hat and pashmina which looked lovely.

So I think it will be fine.

OrganicHairbrush - my MIL wore cream. She did ask first, after she had bought it though , so what could I say but it is okay? I tried to say I wasn't happy..

Just remembered - I wore a beautiful black dress to a friend's wedding a few years ago. Hadn't even realised that it could be a social faux pas. I was 38 weeks pregnant at the time and it was a fabulous Isabella Oliver dress though, and I had a pink pashmina draped over me, because the baby was so wriggly that my whole tummy kept moving around and it made my male childless friend all squeemish!

My friend wore black to my wedding, she looked gorgeous, wasn't pregnant, has stunning figure, could have worn any colour, chose black as she loved the dress.

I didn't mind one bit.