To think DP is being a bit previous in considering where DD may go to secondary school?

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It's this sort of mapping out of a child's life while still in the womb, ffs, that has got us where we are now. Which, educationally, is not a good place morally, speaking. If you are so bothered about the secondary education of your unborn or pre-primary school child please put it down for Eton. Otherwise, do the existential thing and worry about things that might need worrying about much nearer the time.

I took it into considerstion when buying my current house and I didn't have children then! It is always much easier to sell a house on the catchment area of a good school and they generally hold their value better. I wouldn;t want to buy a house in the catchment area oif an unpopular school and rhen find myself in the dilemma of having to move later on.
It is not a huge issue but one thing among many when choosing where to live.

We're moving because the State secondary schools here are rubbish and private fees are out of my league. My DC are not in school yet. So no I don't think your DP is being previous

OOOh my dd is only 3 and I am already husband hunting for her, there is a nice boy in her nursery with professional parents, will do really nicely Future son in law in the making

Buy a house where you want to live. Not on the basis of the current status of a school. What is good today can be far from it in five years time.

PS. But then if people bought houses as homes and supported neighbourhood schools, there wouldn't be all these (allegedly) bad schools that needed running away from.

It comes around all too quickly. Always buy a house in a good school area if you can-however you have to bear in mind that schools can change.

We have had this argument when DS was 5 months old

I went to a school in a shite area (and still live in said shite area) and true alot of my fellow pupils are now wasters however myself and my circle of friends all have good jobs and got good GCSEs and if I say so myself turned out alrght. My DP lived and went to school in a very well-to-do area and often looked down on me and my family / friends because of where we grew up. Most of his friends are unemployed, have no formal qualifications and still live at home at the age of 30 because they have no means of moving out.

I always point this fact out when he starts banging on about what a crummy area we live in and what crud schools there are around here.

Personally I believe - whats that saying I heard a while ago - a rose will bloom wherever (is it that?).

Sorry for the rant / hijack about me,me,me, I guess its been on my mind for a while

The sad fact is OP, that this is what people do nowadays.

I just can't be having with it though. My DD has just got a place in our local primary school, which feeds into our local seconday school (unsurprisingly!), which is apparently crap. But as I don't have a crystal ball to tell what it will be like in EIGHT years time, I refuse to get het up about it.

And FWIW I agree with both Pikelit and SOuthmum.

One of my real soapbox subjects is that the breakdown of community, rise of obesity, antisocial behaviour issues etc etc are all caused (in part of course) by children not attending local schools within their community. IMO!!!!

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The point is that many people move house/lie/commit major scullduggery to get into sec schools of their choice.
If youc an avoid either that is a good move!

Hoever, bear in mind that admission rules may well change in the intervening years.

people put ther kids'names down for Eton before they are born you know!

He is NBU - we moved to the house we live in now (and a mortgage we cant afford!) to be in the catchment area for a good school when DS1 was 3.

Bear in mind that the school you want may have even closed before the DCs reach the admisson age. It's happened to me.......

'people put ther kids'names down for Eton before they are born you know!'
Really? You'd think they would have a few more girls attending if that were the case

we have been pondering choices aswell, DD will be starting reception in September. Some you have to show or at least indicate interest early on, not private schools aswell.