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AIBU?

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either way, i am worried so what would you suggest i do to stop worrying about it?

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meatntattypie · 04/04/2010 19:43

me, dh & ds are going on oliday in the summer to Florida.
We are going with mil, fil and bil.

mil, fil came round today and dropped into converstaion that they didnt get up till after 11am this morning.
bil i know never gets up befor 12md and drinks allot.

So when we go on holiday, we dont want to be wasting the days by waiting round for them to all get up.
We have hired one big car, dh will be driving.
I suggested that maybe they get a car as well, that way they can please themselves and so can we.
They have said absolutely not, they will not consider it.
me and dh have broached the subject and said the above to them, they say "not a problem"
but what if it does become an issue?

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MrsKitty · 04/04/2010 19:45

Could they not hire a car for themselves once you're out there if it does become a problem?

YANBU in wanting to spend your holiday out and about rather than wasting half a day waiting for them to get out of bed!

Coldhands · 04/04/2010 19:47

If they flatly refuse to hire a seperate car and sleep in really late on holiday, then say to them before that you are not going to wait around until the afternoon when they get up to do anything. You want to go out and about and you will go in the mornings. If they want to go out then they will have to get up as well or find another mode of transport. Why should you wait for them all holiday.

If they argue, say thats why you suggested 2 cars and they were the ones who said it wasn't a problem.

pjmama · 04/04/2010 19:47

Agree the night before what time you want to set off for a day out. If you've made it clear you won't be hanging around all morning for them to get up and they've still insisted they're not getting their own car, then I'd just get up and go out at the agree time. If they're not ready then hard bloody luck.

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meatntattypie · 04/04/2010 19:48

i think that it will be an option, but none f them will drive, they want dh to do all the driving. dh wont fall out with them, i dont want to but cant make any promises.

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EmilyStrange · 04/04/2010 19:52

Sounds like a potential nightmare I don't blame you for worrying. Car hire is expensive in the states but I think you need to push for two cars. I guess you could wait and see how the first couple of days go on holiday first.

Have you talked to the bil, he may be well up for hiring another car as he may want to sleep in as it is his holiday too. You could broach it from that tactic. Can he drive? The last thing you want is family squabbles on holiday. It is also good for all of you to have some independence from each other as it can all get a bit much on holiday cooped up together. Good luck.

lovechoc · 04/04/2010 19:53

you are brave going on holiday that far away with the In Laws!! Better you than me...

I'd say they should reconsider and get their own car when they arrive - you don't want to waste a whole morning on them dossing around whilst you've been up for hours.

violethill · 04/04/2010 19:57

Erm... shouldn't you have thought about all this before paying for the holiday?

Sorry I know that doesn't help, but it seems a recipe for disaster to go away with people who will operate completely differently to you, yet are so are controlling about the car issue.

TBH the only suggestion I can think of is that you hire a small car for your own family and do your own thing. But by the sounds of your PIL, that could lead to arguments....

Frog253 · 04/04/2010 19:59

You definitely need two cars-we made the same mistake on holiday in France with my parents and we all get up at a reasonable time. Firstly there may be an insurance issue insofar as only 2 or 3 of you allowed to drive the car w/o extra cost (unless your dh really doesn't mind doing all the driving). Also I don't know how big the car is you are getting but you need space for 6 people and their luggage, we hired the biggest one we could for 6 of us and it was tight to say the least. Also you will want to do different things at some point I am sure and two cars will at least give you that freedom.

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meatntattypie · 04/04/2010 19:59

bil does drive but wont even drive to the next town on the motorway here. no way would he drive in another country especially since he has never ever been abroad before in his life.

we plan on going to the parks then going our separate ways once there. meeting up at the end of the day.
planning to go for big breakfast every day and for meal at night together with them all.
bil not keen on going for breakfast evry day, we all defo want to.
so supposing they get up every morning, we will go to breakfast,then dh will have to drive us all back to villa to pick up bil then go to a park.
im annoyed about that before we even set off.

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Alouiseg · 04/04/2010 20:02

They'll be up so early anyway due to jetlag it shouldn't be a problem, Florida is full of English people staggering around at 6am.

2 cars for sure! Non negotiable!

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meatntattypie · 04/04/2010 20:02

been before with mil & fil and it was fine, we were up and out by 10am every morning. bil is another spanner in the works though.

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violethill · 04/04/2010 20:02

If you're feeling annoyed now, then it's not looking good.

Where will you have breakfast? Could it be somewhere that BIL can make his way to rather than you have to go back?

Alouiseg · 04/04/2010 20:03

Anyway bil needs to take on some responsibility, driving in Florida is a pleasure not a chore.

Selective driving! That's a new one.

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meatntattypie · 04/04/2010 20:05

pondarosa of course !!!! MMMMmmmmmm
Its a bit of a drive to get there.

i am going to invite them all round for sunday lunch before we go to iron out these issues.
agree a plan with them, negotiate and just get the whole thing hammered out before we go.
best way i think.

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moomaa · 04/04/2010 20:12

Where are you staying? Lots of hotels and parks have curtesey coaches to the parks. COuld the late sleepers use those?

Kbear · 04/04/2010 20:17

Before this all gets out of hand, bear in mind you will be in the parks until possibly 10 or 11 at night and might not be so keen to get up and out early after the first few days.

When we were there we had a few early starts until our body clocks adjusted to the time difference then after a few days we had leisurely breakfast, then a swim in the pool and hit the parks mid afternoon - less people, it's cooler in the evenings and a whole different aspect to the parks with the lights and the fireworks.

What I'm saying is that yes, you sound like you do need to iron this out before you go but bear in mind you might not be out early every day anyway.

We're going in May. Can't wait. Have a great time!

wonka · 04/04/2010 20:30

We've just been away with In~laws with very different views on holidays.. Make a set plan 3/4 days spending it with them booking trips out give them start times and say you will leave without them if they are not there! We agreed to meet up every evening for dinner and 3 trips a week it worked really well in the end! You just have to be VERY clear from the off!

BusyMissIzzy · 04/04/2010 20:52

Nothing helpful to add but I am very of you going to the Ponderosa. I haven't been to FL in years (had several family holidays there as a teenager) and we used to go there for breakfast every day.

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