to think that Easter is not Xmas and therefore not buy our nephew lots of Easter gifts when his parents will no doubt buy our DS's gifts?

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I don't believe in Easter presents for kids ie, toys, gifts etc. I give my DC's a small Easter Egg (well, DS1 who is 2.5, not DS2 who is only 8 months) and that's it, and that's what I always intend to do. However, last year my DH's family bought DS1 a mountain of presents including, I kid you not, a wooden rocking horse , clothes and toys. We bought our nephew (age 8) an Easter Egg (and that's all we have ever bought him at Easter) so I was utterly mortified when they presented all these presents.

We are going there for dinner tomorrow and I am dreading it in case they have got the DS's a load of presents again. I said to MIL the other day 'the boys don't need anything at Easter' after she said she had bought DS2 a new top, but don't think she really heard me or took notice anyway! It's more SIL though (she was the one who bought the rocking horse), she and her DH spoil their son so think nothing of spending on our DS's. But it's against what I believe in, Easter in Easter, not Christmas!

Out of anticipatory guilt I said to DH 'should we buy nephew a present?' and he said no way, if they want to spend money on our boys then that's up to them and we shouldn't feel the need to spend on their son. So nephew has an easter egg only.

But I am dreading tomorrow in case they have gone and bought tons argh! What do you do at Easter? Is gift giving normal and are we being unreasonable in not buying nephew presents?

Crikey, i wouldnt even think of buying presents at easter. All the kids (including me ), get an egg from us and our rellies.

Who gives a wooden rocking horse at easter? bloody hell!

My Mum will sometimes buy the kids an outfit or books instead of tinnes of chocolate, but we don't get them anything other than a couple of eggs.

It sounds like your SIL is totally over the top wit the gidt giving. Stick to your easter egg.

buy Eggs, or a small gift - will get a dress for niece when we see her next as she is too small for chocolate.

have bought dvds for DC in the past - when Lion the Witch and the Wardrobe came out, as is an allegory of the Easter story

would not consider getting anything else

YANBU

Chocolate eggs, and maybe an outfit (I've bought my neice some pyjamas) but not toys! Thats just crazy!

I don't buy my Niece and Nephew an Easter Egg because they get sooo many as do my two. What I do instead is but them a very small toy instead. This year he is getting a puzzle and she is getting a very small sparkly mask and some tiny braclets from accessorize. These are very small and I think they are fine but clothes and a rocking horse is way to much.

It sounds to me like your SIL is trying to show off but in the end she will end up looking a little bit silly not you.

I have done a small gift bag each for my nephews as my sister objects to a lot of sweets, but they have a v small egg, a book and an orchard toys, game passed on from my DSs

Really wouldn't want to get involved in big Easter presents and realy they're only getting the gamee becuase my DSs have had a clear out and it's the first time we will see nephews since.
Stick with an egg and hopefully SIL will follow suit

No I wouldn't,
although I did buy niece an outfit instead of egg as she is only 9 months and dh's godchild.

If it were a nephew I would put the egg in a bucket & spade, or a truck, but no more than that, that woud be my equvilent(sp) of buying an easter basket.

YANBU I didn't even buy DD 3.10 an easter egg. I never intended to but I didn't need to anyway because she got 6 great big ones anyway and a board game.

Now I go madly overboard at Christmas, but to me Easter is just a chance to have a whole four days with my family. I've made easter cakes with her and decorated eggs, surely that is enough?

We only buy Easter eggs for nephews and nieces. Our 3 don't even get those from us!! We usually by them a book each but as we are running out of bookshelf space (again!), we have bought them a microscope between them. (They get enough chocolate from other people). Your SIL is mad.

Yes I think they do try to show off a bit, but also they have lots of ££££££££ and think nothing of spending it on their son so they also spend on our sons. I don't like it but I don't want to seem ungrateful either.

Last week they gave DS's presents, a music kit and a musical car. I was so surprised when nephew handed them over- I said 'what are the presents for?' and he just shrugged and said 'I dunno'. SIL & her DH just saw them and decided to buy them for our DS's for no reason. I know it's cos they love them dearly but random gift giving is totally against my principles, we only buy them things at birthdays and Xmas with the occasional wee treat here and there (ie, a small car, book etc). And it makes me feel guilty cos we never buy nephew things other than birthday and Xmas. Mind you, he has absolutely no idea of the value of things now or gets excited by presents which IMHO is very sad.

Just eggs here.

I buy socks and a small egg!Maybe an Easter themed colouring or sticker book if I see them.I have 9dgc and Christmas and birthdays are for presents imho.This year I bought packs of Lindt tiny bunnies/lambs/chicks instead of eggs.

My DH and I give the family chocolate eggs, and have every year since we've been married (because that's what he did before we were married) but his sisters and parents have turned it into gift-giving. We have stuck with eggs the family's too big to start down the presents route imo! We do have a stuffed bunny for DS instead of a chocolate egg, but he's just turned five months old. To be fair, though, DS also has a basket from the Easter Bunny because that's a tradition from my family. But it's not from us it's from the Easter Bunny!

YANBU.

I have the same problem tbh, although my family aren't as extravagant!
MIL even asked me what DD wanted, and when I said "nothing" she said she'd give her money!
It's very kind, but I haven't even got my children eggs!
I've bought DNs & DNs eggs though.

I never give anything to anyone at easter?! This is the first year that we have given DS and DD an easter egg (they are 2 and 6). My mum gave them a small egg and some socks each and DH's mum gave them a fiver each for money boxes/a day out.

They don't get anything from anyone else and that's fine by me. When my sisters girls were little the kitchen cupboards would be bursting with them, they could have up to 30 each to get thru.

I've never really bothered with easter myself so fine with a token gift or egg being given - all this big gift giving seems a bit bizarre to me.

95p Cadbury egg from Tescos' - sorted!

YANBU.

One of my best mates insists on buying ridiculous amounts for DS and I am sick of feeling awful because I don't have the cash to spend that much on her DD. But as one of my other friends pointed out, it's her that's acting unconventionally, not me. I don't remember ever getting wads ot toys at easter. Lots of choccie eggs, yes. Toys, no. It's just weird.

I never received gifts as a child at easter and neither does ds, I don't know when gift giving became the norm?

A chocolate egg will no doubt go down very nicely with nephew.

DS has had an egg cup and a mug for Easter as I don't let him have chocolate but I would never imagine people buying him full on presents

Easter is about Christ rising from the dead not about presents. Eggs represent new life so a egg of some description or an egg cup is lovely, there really is no need for a rocking horse!

Well, we are back from the in laws and between the 2 DS's they got 2 tops, 2 cars, a truck, an easter egg, a packet of little eggs and a bath toy.

We stuck to our guns and gave nephew 2 easter eggs. I still felt bad though when DS's were being given their presents and nephew 'only' had eggs. Silly I know.

I was so proud of my boys this morning. The Easter Bunny left small gift bag with a tiny egg (because we haven't finished all the chocolate santas yet!), a book and a small tub of plastic soldiers for DS1 and animals for DS2. They were sooo excited and thankful.

They hardly ever get gifts outside of Christmas and Birthday, which means they really appreciate them when they do.