weight and MIL

[LittleMrsHappy]

Since having ds2 8 months ago, I was 2 stone heavier than normal for me, I have lost a stone through healthy eating, and I have another stone to go, dh brought me a second hand bike to go cycling with him, and we go swimming and I do a rumba class on a Thursday.

I do this for me and no one else, as I am not comfortable being this size and cant get clothes that fit me comfortably due to my shape (mostly trousers, as I have no bum and big belly, so I am always having a builders bum, even with a belt).... MIL has been making snide comments all this time about how my size 10's look trampish on me!

Firstly I dont own a size 10 pair, and all my clothes are loose fitting and secondly why make the comments, I know and feel uncomfortable in my skin atm and I know I am a saggy belly, but Im doing all I can to improve my body image of me.

My ideal goal is 10 stone.

When going on facebook today, my friend made a comment that she loved being at my house on Tuesday night and that the conversation we had were brilliant (reminiscing on our youths) MIL replied

"did she have her size 10 jeans on like"

Tbh Im fuming, it had nothing to do with the conversation and I dont a pair of size 10 jeans.

AIBU to really be annoyed at her for making a public issue out of MY weight issues.

I haven't spoken to her about it, or even wanted to discuss it to her, my weigh hand up is mine and not hers. so why did she feel the need to so this?.

Cow. She's jealous.

(So am I, to be honest. Oh to be anywhere near a size ten...)

Tell her to fark off. And get the mil off your facebook page, that's just weird, or rig the privacy settings so she can't actually see anything.
And when it comes to weight, and trust me, I have many many years experience in losing baby weight, the ones who comment have issues of their own. I speak as someone whose own mil told me not to lose any more weight when I was 13 stone, but now I am under 10 seems to think I am her new best friend and wants to show me off She is skinny as a rake and has her own issues

What an utter child your MIL is. I hope that your DH hasn't inherited it.

Thats the thing I am not a size 10, I was before kids, and I am now a size 12-14, but I wear 14 as I feel comfortable in them, even tho they are too big on the bum and waist, but fit my thighs.

I dislike my body as it is not in proportion, Im not really bothered about the size of clothes about what I am going to fit into, Im just hoping I get a shape that will suit me and not be baggy their, fitted there etc...

Yanbu she has an issue not you if you only have a stone to go I am guessing you weigh 11 stone (correct me I am wrong).

Could she be jealous that you have a full and happy life. Well done on getting rid of a stone,you are doing the right thing by doing it slowly as it will stay off.

Yes Im 11 stone x

Start mentioning that she could do with a facelift.

Snap! Am also 11 stone, trying to get back down to 10 stone, and suffer from builders bum syndrome You sound like you are doing fantastically well.

Your MIL, on the other hand, is being a real bitch. Next time she makes a comment, act confused and say, "sorry, I don't get it...what are you on about" I have found that nothing deflates people more than having to explain their "funny" remark.

11 stone is fine. I know what you mean about body shape if I put on weight it's all on my stomach but my legs stay like stick. Keep up the good work

Frankly, I'm jealous of a size 12-14 too. She is being cruel to you.

What a bitch thoughtless woman.

De-friend her on FB - when she asks why - tell her.

Bloody rude woman....

You are doing really well

Jealous - how big is she? Delete her comment (hovver over it and an X will appear I think, or it says delete under) and block her. Total weirdo. I would love love love to be 12-14. Well done you for losing a stone so far

MIL is a bitch

LittleMrsHappy what a great attitude towards your goal you have, i meet so many people who think getting to a size 8/10 will make them instantly look/feel good.
thank you for having a healthy attitude and not thinking that getting to 10 stone or being a size 10 magically makes you look fantastic! its all about proportion. oh and feeling fantastic helps
your MIL is being extremely catty, ignore he, she is just jealous that you are losing weight and having fun by the sounds of it!

Add a FB comment to her: "Do you need a new glasses prescription, like?"

YANBU

Maybe a comment along the lines of "Do you practise making nasty comments about my weight or does it just come naturally." or then again maybe SalFresco's comment may be better.

She is jealous of you. She sounds like a bitch. Delete her from your fb. Know that inside and outside you are a beautiful person. She is just plain nasty.

Ouch. What a cruel thing to say. If you do delete her, will that cause other issues, like between you and DH, will she run to him saying "boo hoo, LittleMrs Happy removed me as a friend"? If not, GET RID!!! If you don't care if she does, GET RID!! Horrid woman.

If you're seeing her over Easter, make sure you're stuffing your face with chocolate when she's there. She what she says!!

thats plain nasty, use this as your chance to block her and get your dh to bollock her

Clearly, , that should read "see what she says"

Got the wrong teeth in!!

I'm with TheCrackFox, start hinting at facelift.

Fucking bitch to slag you off about something so sensitive in public.

Block her.

I felt exactly as you describe after dd1. I didn't lose much more weight but gradually something approaching a normal shape reasserted itself around 12 months. Soon after I got pregnant again so not sure how it would have developed, but was heading (finally) in the right direction.

you could add a comment addressing your friend saying something like
"do you see what i mean now?"

Oh, that's a good one, maristella!