working mum

[chickenlickin]

I am I in the wrong to be annouyed with DH as he NEVER gets up with kids in the night. We have two kids 22 months apart. Youngest one year old. I Breastfeed both for a year so took it that i would obvously get up and do this at night. Now i have finished AND back to work. I work as a midwife and do horrible shift work. Only three days a week but have the kids rest of the week.

When i work at weekends sometimes I ask if DH will get up for youngest if he wakes (normally 4am, goes back really easy but have to go down stairs to get bottle of cows milk, and when this happens DH gets really angry and shouts and moans (waking everyone up) saying that he never gets a break and that It is my job! I did point out that I am working this day (very early start) and that he was off. (which he says to me every day) REALLY beginning to piss ,me off and cause problems. AM I BEING UNREASONABLE ???

just saw runnybottoms comment and had to click on this thread!
i di but almost rid of mine, cant wait till ds's are 18 and wont have to deal with him full stop.
it used to piss me off when he would tell people he worked with he was tired from being up feeding the baby all night, ERRR NO, i was up breast feeding, you were asleep, maybe you were tired as you were on the playstation till 3 am and then you had to get up, twat!!!!!

and chickenlicken, no your not. he is.

happy easter

YANBU

They're his children as well so it's his responsibility to do 50% of the childcare.

YANBU. My XP was like that, which is one reason he became my X. Never got up in the night with either of the dc's and didn't get out of bed at weekends untill gone 10. I never got a break and worked p/t.

Time for a serious chat I think before you are ready to explode.

LOL at runnybottom

YANBU. How can he say out loud that it's your job without you smaking him one? Is he brave or just stupid?

Sit him down and say if he does not get up in the night/early morning you will give up your job.
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YADNBU. He sounds like a lazy twat (sorry for swearing). Show him this thread, if anything it will make him feel about an inch tall.

Am so angry on your behalf.

YADNBU and your DH is an arrogant twat.

Even SAHM's need some sleep! They're his children too and he should grow up and stop being so utterly selfish.

When dd2 was born and I was bf, dh would get up for dd1. Then as they got older we'd take it in turns.

YANBU

DH and I have always taken it in turns to get up with the children despite fact I am a SAHM and he works in a very demanding job.

His reasoning was that he wanted me to enjoy the children and them to enjoy me and that would not be possible on little sleep.

Second runnybotton some of you really did marry twats