to think that the care worker at DD nursery...

[OnlyWantsOne]

AIBU to think that the care worker at DD's nursery corrects my DD and says DP's name, rather than Daddy, which is how he is referred to at home, and at school by DD (who is 3).

When my DD said today, will my sunflower grow bigger and taller than my daddy.... the woman replied "Yes, OnlyWantsOne's Child, the sunflower we are growing will be bigger than DP's name"

None of the other staff have ever done this infront of me.

This woman has never met my DD's biological father, and doesn't know the situation, just knows that DP is not her biological father.

AIBU to think she shouldnt correct my daughter?

Just ask her why she does it and say you would rather she didn't.

Well, does she do it with the other kids?

Sounds very strange to me. Could it have been a slip of the tongue, she's so used to saying real name that she used it to reply?

Fab tby she is a little scary (and a lot older than me) and actually intimidates me. So no, I wouldnt correct her...

And no I dont think she has done this to other kids, as I have discussed it with 2 other parents at the nursery, and none of them have heard her do it to other kids, but have heard her do it to my DD while they have been there collecting their kids.

I think you need to have a word with the care worker, and let her know what the preferred name for your dp is.

If your dd calls your dp "daddy", then the care worker should not be correcting her. She may know your dp is not the biological father, but there are many men who are called "daddy" by children who are not related.

And it isn't her business. Just tell her. You should not be intimidated by someone caring for your child.

o