to think that my friends are remarkably unimaginative in their wedding plans?

[LoveInAColdClimate]

MN seems to be full of people's themed weddings - either people complaining about having to dress up for them or people posting about their own (i.e. the black & white wedding or various weddings discussed on the recent wedding guests' pet hates threads).

I have never been invited to a themed wedding. I don't think I know anyone in real life who has been invited to a themed wedding. All the weddings we go to (ours included) follow exactly the same pattern of church (generally in the middle of nowhere) followed almost without deviation by a marquee in someone's garden, with the bride and groom wearing, respectively, a long ivory dress and a morning suit. I have never been told what to wear (apart from one where I was warned that we would be standing outside for ages and told to wear a hat and suncream as I am lily-white and turn lobster in about five minutes - I don't think this was a general warning!) or asked to bring a candle, flowers, or anything else. Virtually all the female guests under about 40 will be in something from Coast, the rest will be in a more grown up version with a jacket. All the men in morning suits or just ordinary suits.

I absolutely love weddings and am more than happy with the above format, but am I being unreasonable to think my friends and I are being most boringly identikit when compared with some of the weddings posted about on here? Where are the crazy themes for me to moan about?

I've never been to a controversial wedding either! Makes them all a bit "samey" imo but no arguements either.

i hate traditional weddings tbh.
its meant to be your special, personal day, why in gods name would you make it like every other wedding done.
you want a cake made of cheese or something!

Never been to or heard of a themed wedding in el before I was looking in magazines for my own wedding and saw some!

All weddings are naff in my opinion, including my own!

I still think they may be a myth confined to wedding magazines and MN

at my cousin's wedding

bride had an accidnet just bfore and had to wear a surgical collar

I (15 yo, bridesmaid) dyed my hair pink

Then bride ran off with best man 2 months later

I've noticed that 90% of brides seem to have the same dress these days - strapless, a-line and white. Maybe with a bit of ruching or beading, but essentially the same dress.

And all those towers of cupcakes - gaaaaah!

I had a traditional wedding and I loved it BUT if I had my time again, I would do something original and a bit quirky.

Last week, I went to a wedding that took place on a wednesday, on a narrow boat with ten people present. Then the reception was the couples' local beer garden that had been decked out with a mini-marquee, bunting, fair lights and pot plants. By far the best wedding I've been to in yonks Sometimes I regret my staid wedding, even though that's what I wanted at the time.

May the lord preserve us from 'wacky' people who get married on rollercoasters etc to show how crazy and different they are.

Weddings pretty much work as they are. You know the drill, and most people are happy with it.

No need for difference for difference's sake.

The point of a wedding is that two people who ordinarily may not get the "spotlight" on them in everyday life can- for once in their lives- have the attention of everyone they know for a day. It is therefore only right that how they wish to marry is their choice and their's alone.
Having said this, I couldn't give a fig how my actual wedding day went and saw marrying as a formality for legal reasons. Thus it was a quick ceremony in the register office.
The highlight of the day came when the fish and chip shop owner gave me and my new husband a free bag of chips and fish (each!) on being told we'd just got married that day.

I have heard of a black and white wedding and a ear somthing pink wedding (but I wasn't invited to either)

LOL at Coast reference. Have been invited to a wedding in August last week and I thought 'mm, I wonder what they've got in Coast this year!'

I haven't seen a controversial wedding, either...and mine was terribly traditional, but then, I couldn't have given a toss about how I got married, as long as I married my DH. The rest was totally for my family.

Even the conventional ones but with quirks are all the same - have been to loads with a cake made of layers of cheese (yum!) or "quirky" flowers (flowers in teacups or sunflowers) but is the Accepted Face of Quirk, not actually anything actually original, if you see what I mean.

Not that I'm moaning, I like the above mentioned quirks, but they're hardly actually novel, are they?

Most weddings I've been to tend to follow the same sort of line. You know, two people making promises followed by booze and food. I think those are the best kind.

When I get married next time (to Johnny Depp) I'd like to just slope off to Gretna Green and do it on the quiet. I think that that's what Johnny would like, he doesn't like the limelight and all the fuss and I think he'd want to not have to share me with a hundred guests afterwards.

why do you need to have a zaney theme ? trapeze artists etc etc. when you have old friends , a few drinks and a nice atmosphere, they make for the best best wedding EVER.

*LoveInAColdClimate" Yes, the phrase "Accepted Face of Quirk" makes perfect sense to me.

Same here, not beed to any where we have been asked to wear a particular colour or anything like that. And I have been to loads of wedings; we went through a phase of about 3 years when every couple we knew seemed to be getting married. (Seems to have tailed off now and has progressed into christenings and divorces!) Anyway, i have to say that i have yet to go to a wedding i haven't enjoyed; i think that if you like the couple getting married then you aren't really bothered if their cake is made of sponge, fruit or cheese, you just want them to have a nice day and for you to get piddled!!

Cake made of cheese sounds fantastic! Who likes that fruit cake anyway?

Am glad I've not been invited to a themed wedding. Hard enough finding something nice to wear, in my budget, without adding further constraints.

My wedding this summer is going to be pretty simple and small - 30 guests, registry office followed by nice meal and lots of drink. Only slight difference is we're not having a wedding cake (DF doesn't want one and I'm not bothered) but as a surprise I've organised a birthday cake to be brought in at midnight to celebrate DF's b'day which is the next day.

I started a thread about this earlier

I like good old traditional weddings! I want to see Uncle Nobhead dancing to "Do ya Think I'm Sexy?" I want to come across some female crying in the ladies, while all her friends rub her back and tell her he's a bastard. Cheesy is good- you know where you are with cheesy.

When people try to go all creative, I feel like I am in some sort of show-wedding (like a show-house) and should behave impeccably. All guests behaving impeccably= dull, polite chit-chat wedding.

As I said on another thread, my wedding dress is purple

i like jooly's weddings too. laughing at he's a bastard rubbing. funny

I would not attend a 'themed wedding', can't think of anything more tacky.