to run forgotten stuff up to dd at school?

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Dd is 12 and has an awful memory - just like mum

Anyway she is always forgetting things for school, stuff she really needs. She has a planner she's supposed to have every day, she's forgotten it three or four times this term, but she can get a 'day sheet' if she forgets, she only gets in trouble if she forgets it too many times.

But last week she forgot an IMPORTANT letter that I had put in her hand literally two minutes before she walked out the door, I waved her goodbye, went in the living room and it was on the table. I had to throw on clothes, run out the door, and leg it to catch her before she got to school. Half a mile at a jog before I've even had my coffee

Today she's forgotten her easter eggs for her friends, its the last day of term, so I'm off in 10 mins to take them up the school, it's a good 15 mins walk so at least I'll get my 30 mins of exercise today .

Now there are things like the letter that she HAD to have, but the eggs are just because I'll feel bad for her when her friends are giving out eggs and she doesn't have any.

My friends reckon I'm a soft touch and should let her get on with it. But my memory is bloody rotten too so I do feel a bit sorry for her.

Anyone else got dc's with terrible memories? Any tips for improving things? For me too

but I'm not fond of chocolate

I think we need tips for getting oneself/disorganised kids organised .
All I can offer is
have a "home " for important items and always return item ( like keys ,planner )to it

use the reminder function on your phone

wtite on hand

I think you're a bit of a soft touch for taking the eggs. 12 is old enough to take some responsibility.

Ideally she should have got her bags packed the evening before, and put the eggs in her schoolbag ready to go so she couldn't forget them in the morning.

violet you haven't seen my hands... on the left one I've got "paper bill", on the right one I've got "milk bank SEAFOOD"

If I didn't have my hands I'd forget EVERYTHING

I put things they need into their school shoes which are by the door (especially notes for school). It usually works.

I do think that secondary school age children are ready to take responsibility for the stuff they need to take into school. I'm not including stuff suddenly required by teachers or children who might have specific difficulties in remembering in their own right though. I suspect I might have given in for Easter Eggs but not with a good grace!

I was not a very soft touch in this respect. Thus not a lot of stuff got forgotten. Unlike my dp who was and we still seem to spend more time than absolutely necessary delivering forgotten things to my dsd given her age (27) and responsible job. I love her very much and don't often inconvenience myself with the running around but I can't help but think a slightly harder heart at 12 would have been better for everyone. Mainly her.