To not want DH to

[Mishy1234]

AIBU to not want DH to arrange to have insulation put into our loft the month our baby is due?

I'm due at the end of May, but DS came early (37 wks) so I'm worried it may happen again. We live in quite a small bungalow, so there will be tons of mess, dust (there's lots of stuff to move around) and maybe fibres from whatever they're using coming down into the house. I very much doubt I'll want to clean every surface, bed linen, clothes etc weeks before I'm due.

If I'm early I know what will happen. I'll be forced into taking my new baby to my PIL's because of the mess. This is very likely my last baby and I want my nice peaceful babymoon in my own home. Don't get me wrong, my PIL are absolutely golden (they have saved my bacon over the past few weeks with taking DS at weekends to let me rest), but I just really want to have my time with the baby at home. Also, depending on the timing, DH could possibly spend a chunk of his paternity leave doing the loft (he took no time off last time when I came home).

yanbu for all the reasonms you say
it's spring, insulating can wait till late summer

Yanbu!!! I would not want to bring a new baby home to house full of dust, mess & fibres. Surely it can wait until another time

Why would he think this was acceptable

no YNBU

but WHAT is it about men that makes them think its a good idea to do stuff like that when their partner is heavilly pregnant?? is it some gene we dont have?

Id have thought it would make more sense to do this sort of thing late summer, autumn time.

Are the insulation-installing-men significantly cheaper because no-one is sinterested in insulation in the spring?

That's the only possible reason I can think of for getting it dne then.

Or did you just get a big gas bill for the winter and DH panicked?

He's nesting

But yes, wrong time.

I think there are grants available atm, so that's why he's keen to do it asap. April is no good as he's late with his thesis, so will be working night and day on that.

I just think it's idiotic to arrange something so disruptive at such an important time. I also want to come home to MY house, not be forced to go to PIL's (I'm sure they'd look after me brilliantly, I just want time alone with my family which I didn't get last time).

Thanks for the support. I'll show the thread to DH!

yanbu, i hated the fact that the washing up hadn't been done when the mw came let alone seeing a home covered in insulation mess

YANBU - I'm due in 3 days and yesterday my DH started going on about wanting to lay new carpet in the hall 'sometime this week'. I went a bit mental and shouted 'what, when I'm bloody well in labour?????' etc etc - I mean I know they're only trying to help but FGS.......

He probably realises there will be no time once the baby is here to do much more than breathe.