To not go traisping around town in the rain with two children to get MIL's bday present because DH forgot?

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When he won't tell me what to get?

Mil is extremely fussy and, imo, ungratefull. If you get the wrong thing or don't spend enough she will say "Well I thought I'd have got more than that" or "WHy did you get me that? You needn't have bothered if that is all you come up with"

DH is also very moody and agressive and if I get the wrong thing he will go in a mood with me too.

So AIBU just not to bother? I did say I would go and get perfume if he found out which one she liked but he never bothered.

Send her something via amazon and then you don't need to leave your home

But what though?

yanbu

why bother buying anything for anyone who is moody and ungrateful?

why bother doing anything for a dh who is moody and ungrateful (and aggressive)?

buy yourself something instead.

Ditch him, and you'll lose the MIL too! Win win.

Order some very lovely flowers for delivery. No-one can object to that. Do it online.

Ooh yes flowers from Next. If I do it before 5pm they will come tomorrow yes?

I wouldnt bother. Its his mother. Either that or raid his bank account for hundreds of pounds worth of gift vouchers which you can send from the pc.

Or alternatively - get the kids to make her something - and tell her, sweetly, "you know DH never remembers and I always struggle with what to get you - so this time I left it to the children to make something, they are SO excited about it"

Several ways to skin a cat, as the saying goes.

They both sound like pita's!

I wouldnt bother with it tbh.

Flowers ordered. Nice big colourfull binch from Next equipped with chocolates and happy birthday ballooon and a personalised gift card.

If she doesn't like them I'm blmaing Orm

Good for you. If he can't be bothered why should you! If my Dh forgets birthdays then his family/friends don't get presents/cards. I don't expect him to remember my mothers birthday so why should i remember his?

Well done, I leave my H to sort his family out now. Not my problem.

sorry, aggressive?
flowers from next, lovely
yeah, its DH's family, if he doesnt remember, they get upset with him, not me. they were his family first!

Agressive, arse hole of a husband.

Ungrateful hag of a mil.

Not sure why you bothered.

No MIL is nice most of the time. I just don't understand their family and the importance that they place on gifts. I was brought up to believe that a card (especially a homemade one) and a happy birthday was enough. A gift was a bonus.

They seem to think that gifts are very important.

I have no excuses for DH. He is a twunt most of the time.

Let us know if she likes them wont you!

"Well they're alright but where are the 30 single stemmed roses then?"

When she says 'is that all' you need to say that there was going to be perfume that DH was going to get and then when he forgot you had said you would get it (despite having to trail two little ones with you in the rain) once he told you what perfume you liked - as you know she is so particular and would think the wrong perfume is worse than no perfume but you are still waiting to be informed...

And then just break down into a confused rant - I just don't understand your family, I know you are different and presents are important to you, not just any presents but the right presents and lots of money. I'd love to get you the right present but I don't know what you want because whenever I try to get you something perfect I can never get it right, it's always too cheap, too expensive, and just too wrong. DH is no help, I'm not a mind reader, how am I supposed to know when nobody will say what they expect as their birthday dues. I can do presents for my family no problem but yours is a problem and I resent spending money if it is just going to be thrown back in my face every time. etc etc.

and breathe

might at least get her to tell you directly what she expects or to agree to disagree about presents and just do them for the kids or help out someway and make you feel better! If she has been making you feel bad about them for ages, then about your turn to feel good...