to think that if you're going to go and watch your DS reading a prayer at the school Easter service......

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that you should at least try and make the effort to be seen by the said child.......or even see them yourself????

Especially when you are standing at the back of the church, and moving just a few steps to your right would mean that as soon as your DS stood up to read his prayer and looked directly down the aisle (as he did) that he would have SEEN you???? And moving to the right slightly would inconvenience no-one but yourself????

Was that your ExH? Did your DS2 know he had come?

And did he do the prayer beautifully?

Yes that was ExH - who rang me 10 minutes before the service started (I missed it as I alread had my phone on silent), I tried to ring him back, and he didn't answer. He then rang me at 1.58 "to check it was the right day" FFS.

Then he came in at the last minute and stood right to one side at the back, there's no way he could have seen DS2 from where he was, and vice versa.

He then left before the end of the service as soon as DS2 had read.

DS2 did his prayer beuatifully - very proud of him.

I did tell him that his daddy came, but it's not quite the same finding out afterwards is it???

Could you persuade your exH to phone and congratulate your ds on how beautifully he read the prayer?

phone and congratulate him - are you kidding - he hasn't even rung to speak to them since we moved (nearly 4 weeks ago).

Well if he came in late maybe the only place he could sit without disturbing other people was right at the back.

And if he didn't know exactly when your DS was reading he might not have been ready to stand "a few steps to the right"; or might not have thought of it until it was too late; or, again, might not have wanted to disturb other people.

When DD was about 3 she was in her first concert with nursery. We turned up quite early but, being new at this sort of thing, we didn't want to look like pushy parents and elbow our way to the front row so we sat about half way back. I could tell when DD came on that she couldn't see us. I did my best to catch her eye, give little waves and so on, but short of standing up and yelling "Here we are" there wasn't much we could do. Her little face looked so disappointed all the way through and, although she cheered up at the end when I appeared and told her we had seen it all, it took the shine off it abit.

After that I always thought "o hell with it" and got their for things as early as possible and got the best seat I could. But try not to be too hard on the EXH. He was there and he might not have realised how important it was to be seen.

no he rushed in at the last minute but before they actually started, there was no-one he would have disturbed by taking a few more steps across the back of the church (I was sat upstairs RIGHT at the back so could see everything).

He had an order of service in his hands, it clearly said "prayers" on it,

He was just too f*cking lazy. There's no way he could have seen DS2 from where he stood either.

Would he refuse to do it then if you asked him? I suppose worth a try?