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Original poster

dress code at a christening is stupid!!aibu??

38 replies

doasisay · 31/03/2010 13:39

been invited to a christening on sunday and had a txt message from the mother of the child saying they have a strict dress code for ..wait for it.....the children that are attending .... They do not want any child attending to be dressed in white??????

when i txt her bak thinking she was joking she sed her reason is cos she doesnt want the day oto be taken away from her PRECIOUS BABY!!!?/
How will my DD wearing a white dress/skirt affect her 4 month old feelings about his special day!!

Im trawling the internet now trying to find a white summer dress to put my DD in!!
AIBU to think this is the most ridiculous thing ever asked!!!

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SuziKettles · 31/03/2010 13:44

Oh dear. You've got to save this memory up and bring it out to savour a few years down the line when she's less mad sensitive.

Fabulous. Gold medal in the PFB stakes for her.

AMumInScotland · 31/03/2010 13:45

It's a bit precious of her, though I think you'd be a leetle bit U to deliberately dress your DD in white just to spite her.

Is the christening happening during the main Sunday service? If so, there may be more than one child being christened anyway, so she can't make her child everyone's sole focus!

squeaver · 31/03/2010 13:45

Do the children have to wear white or are they not allowed to wear white?

BunnyLebowski · 31/03/2010 13:49

She's a loon.

I wouldn't go. Simple as.

Original poster
doasisay · 31/03/2010 13:52

No i wouldnt really put her in white on purpose although id love to...
i will put this in memory filing box and bring out when needed in the future! she is so ridiculous...the baby is getting christened just after the normal mass and there is 2 other children being christened on the day but she has organised a lavish party for afterwards ...with a sit down meal and speaches (like a wedding) apparently haha i cant wait to be miss judgey pants on sunday!!

OTT in my opinion when my DC' got christened we just went back to my house and had a few sandwiches etc

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venusonarockbun · 31/03/2010 13:53

What planet is she on! Its unlikely that any children would be all dressed in white anyway but she is a bit of a silly mare for even requesting this. Wouldnt go.

tummytime · 31/03/2010 13:53

I think it is a bit precious of her but all it is is not to dress your child in white (if I've read the op right). Its not that difficult is it? Whenever I try and put my 3 yo in white it ends up dirty grey in about 5 minutes anyway so now don't bother.

YABU to dress your child in white deliberately but dress code at a christening is unnecessary.

Undercovamutha · 31/03/2010 13:55

Totally agree with BuunyLebowski.

Original poster
doasisay · 31/03/2010 13:57

Im not going to dress my DC'S in white but would really love to see what she would do if i did!!

but i know it would be U to dress them in away that would upsaet her! but she is a loon haha

I have to go im too nosey not too now

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Miggsie · 31/03/2010 13:57

I'd be sorely tempted to dress the DCs in fancy dress and take water pistols that they fill from the font.

I'd also recommend the mother has an operation to remove the corn cob from her arse.

ChippingIn · 31/03/2010 13:57

FGS - whatever next?? Dress code, sit down meal, speaches - thank all things hairy I don't have a religious bone in my body and don't feel the need to have christenings!

Pikelit · 31/03/2010 13:58

Sending dress code instructions out to what is basically ordinary mass with a christening amidst sounds quite bonkers! But what is so wrong with having a proper christening party afterwards? Just because you had a few sandwiches doesn't mean this is the only acceptable way to celebrate. Also, why are you so keen to be "miss judgey pants" at the event? Do you have a very tiny life?

Original poster
doasisay · 31/03/2010 13:59

haha miggsie wish i had the nerve to do that...
and chippingin not all christenings are like this but theres always a freaky one isnt there haha

she's planning her wedding for next year aswell now that is one party i am looking forward too

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cocolepew · 31/03/2010 14:00

Speeches? What the hell are they going to say? You better come back with an update.

Fliight · 31/03/2010 14:02

What are 'speaches' anyway?

I think you#re being really horrible, yes she sounds like she is being a bit funny about it but we're all allowed a bit of a pfb moment now and then.

If you dislike her so much I think it would be plain wrong of you to go. What a nasty 'friend'.

Miggsie · 31/03/2010 14:03

I wonder what the wedding dress code will be?

"all women must dress in sacks so as to not take away the attention from the bride on her special day"

Actually, you are meant to get married first, have a tiered cake and SAVE THE TOP TIER for the christening.

She's done it the wrong way round. You can always say at the christening "where is the top tier of the wedding cake?" or at the wedding "shame you can't save the top tier for the christening you had last year?"

Those who live by total pretentious crap, die by totally pretentious crap in my book.

mingler · 31/03/2010 14:03

I think you need to find something as close to white as possible without being white.

Original poster
doasisay · 31/03/2010 14:07

im not a nasty friend, shes not my friend...she is a member of my boyfriends family and i sincerely apologise if i have made any spelling mistakes that may offend!

and yes pikelit i do have a very tiny life
thanks

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Fliight · 31/03/2010 14:09

I still think you shouldn't go, if you dislike her that much.

I wouldn't want someone who was judging me that way at my child's christening, wedding or anything else.

Can you not try and see it as someone being a bit daft but essentially with good intentions?

I guess not.

jenduff · 31/03/2010 14:11

"when i txt her bak thinking she was joking she sed her reason is cos she doesnt want the day oto be taken away from her PRECIOUS BABY!!!?/"

erm surely there will be at least two other children in white christening gowns - no? ie the other two babies being christened?

christening equiv of bridezilla

alarkaspree · 31/03/2010 14:11

I don't think I could bear to go to a christening that had speeches. What are they going to say about a 4-month-old?

Not dressing my children in white is never a problem for me though!

5DollarShake · 31/03/2010 14:14

As if anyone would dress their child in white anyway!

She could have easily gotten away with having no other DCs over-shadow PFB's Christening, without having the world think she is a loon - oops!

Fliight · 31/03/2010 14:14

I guess she might be afraid of confusing the already numerous babies being christened with those who aren't.

You have to be pragmatic.

It could go on all day otherwise, if the vicar thinks every child in white is up for it.

CirrhosisByTheSea · 31/03/2010 14:15

oh god just when I think people like this can't get any more feeble and silly....I hope the baby screams through the entire day

and then pukes on the christening gown

If I was there, I would puke on the gown, on request, sure you don't want me to come?

Fliight · 31/03/2010 14:16

God, you lot are so so nasty!

I wish I wasn't on this thread, I don't want to witness this.