to refuse to do anything for dh until he explains

[melondrama]

why he has signed up for some sex chat site.

i was out all day yesterday, taking kids to softplay whilst he hung about the house.

i came home to all the mess, he hadn't moved an inch...
then once kids were in bed and he was out i turned on laptop and found 5 open windows of stupid sex chat site
when i called him to ask wtf was he upto he accused me of reading his emails! then he tried to laugh it off as harmless mooching round porn sites.

today he asked me to make him breakfast but i told him i wouldn't be doing anything for him until he explained wtf he has been doing online. so he huffed off back to bed and is still there now, arsehole!

surely i deserve an explanation? i'm really furious but he's trying to squirm out of this

Perhaps you need to find some time and rekindle the passion?

How old is your youngest?

If you can't get greater resolution of things, at least tell him to be more discreet next time he wishes to leave a deposit in the wank bank.

He is lying.

5 times he registered and realised you have to pay?

Soooo...if he didn't have to pay, he'd have been happily chatting to other women on a sex chat site?

Good point Chickens.

not impressed by that explanation! he realised he had to pay, so he left it? oh, that's ok then

you two not having enough sex is a shame for both of you but it's not an excuse. me and DH hardly have sex ATM, baby in our bed like you, there's no way DH would resort to that.

if he didnt pay then he's not registered,so no details would stay and no emails would be exhanged. he'd just click off

he's lying....there are emails,he's registered....either he got s free basic registration,tried to take 'things further' and realised he has to UPGRADE and to do that,he needs to pay.

so you just leaving it op?

What Threeblondeboys said.

He's lying.

Christ OP how can this now be resolved?

Are you happy with him using a live webcam.

And then putting the blame on you for not having sex because you are knackered (from running around all day with the kids, cleaning up after them because dumbass is wanking to some stranger and making him breakfast).

What an arsehole. Why out up with this shit?

A tosser in every sense of the word.

so now he'll be off searching for chat sites where he doesn't have to pay - are you happy that he is searching for the chance to have sex chat with other women?????!

did you ask him why he wants to chat to other females about sex in the first place?

just cos he's not getting any (as he says) doesn't give him permission to chat to other females - that's not that many steps away from arranging to meet someone to get his rocks off.

guys who aren't getting it at much at home, would usually just look at porn

if he wants to be waited on like a child maybe the way to stop him looking at porn sites is by putting a child blocker on your net and setting a password he would never guess!
i would personally change the locks

Turn the tables you check into the porn sites,let him take the kids to softplay,turn the tables,and have a good day.With regards to cold porridge,next time he willbe wearing it.