To not want a fuss for our wedding and to go off on the quiet

[hubbamamma]

Most of our friends have had large weddings in a church then on at a hotel spending thousands ,this is nice but we are saving for a house we have been together along time and have kids, would it be so bad to have a quiet wedding or go off and marry just with us and the kids as We dont want the fuss or the expense,any ideas?. ant dont want the hassal.

of course it wouldn't be bad! as long as you wouldn't regret it later. Big weddings seem to be so hard to organise with regards to not offending family and friends etc and knowing where to draw the line with who you are inviting. Maybe just invite immediate family, just parents and siblings to a regisrty office and then a nice meal after. Or run away abroad!

My brother and (new) sister in law have just got back from a wedding abroad to which only they went - no family, no friends, just the two of them. We're all fine about it, there are no hard feelings. They're having a big party later in the year so we'll get the chance to celebrate then. I truly believe that you should do what you feel happy with. We tried to keep our wedding reasonable but it still cost a good few thousand. I think that going off somewhere with your kids is a great idea. Perhaps you could then have a low cost knees up somewhere and ask people to bring a dish. That way you avoid a lot of the hassle and expense but people get the chance to come and offer their congratulations to you.

I would be inclined to choose something you want and can afford and go ahead and book it. People may grumble but they will have to get used to it.

You are a wise woman.
Very wise.
Do it.

I did it.

Do it! With luck, if enough people do this the annoying trend towards ridiculously huge/expensive weddings will go away (let's hope).

We did it and don;t regret it at all (and it was just the two of us, no family or friends at all)

If you've already lived together a long time AND have DCs together...then what is the point of a big wedding anyway? Might as well keep things quiet, and do what you want.

Go for it. My 2 best friends have done the same.

Go for it.

Dh and I went away for the weekend, got married (found our witnesses in the carpark) wearing jeans and tshirt, sat by a river and drank champagne and ate brownies, then went for a pizza - it was heaven.

Good luck.