To not want a fuss for our wedding and to go off on the quiet

[hubbamamma]

Most of our friends have had large weddings in a church then on at a hotel spending thousands ,this is nice but we are saving for a house we have been together along time and have kids, would it be so bad to have a quiet wedding or go off and marry just with us and the kids as We dont want the fuss or the expense,any ideas?. ant dont want the hassal.

just do it, have a family holiday, get married and come home and have a BBQ or something

its a completely different matter when you have a house/kids than when you're young and can spend a stupid amount of money on one day - I wouldn't!!

its YOU and DP's day, do with it as you wish

No problem with that at all as long as you really do keep it no fuss. You could have close relatives and friends there and buy them some fish and chips after/go down the pub and buy a round if you wanted people to join you in celebrating your marriage with very little cost.

Do what will make you both happy.

We had a registry office wedding (our DC,mums and siblings attended), then a meal with our guests (all six of them!), then went off on honeymoon. It was blissfully stress-free and very romantic.

We used to run a holiday cottage. A couple turned up one Sat and asked us what we were doing later in the week. Dh and I were the witnesses at their registry office do, and they took us out for lunch after.

I got home as soon as I could after (they went off - in full wedding gear - to the beach!) and put a bottle of champagne, choccies, rose petals etc into the cottage (next to our house) for them.

They came back the next year with their baby!!

It is your day!!!!

You do as you want.

If you are saving for a house it seems madness to spend upwards of £10K or whatever on one day when that money could do so much more in bricks and mortar.

Plan the day you both want and don't let anybody show their "disappointment" in your plans.

I'm with MinnieMalone.
DH and I got married at Gretna Green, was just us and our parents and my DD.
Lovely day.
We then went for a pub lunch, coludn't be bothered with all the fuss for one day when I have other, more important things to pay for.

Me and DP are planning a tiny wedding, can't stand the thought of a big wedding and all the politics involved.

YANBU, do it your way. We sneaked off and got married in a registry office on a Friday afternoon, and then went for a nice meal. It was very exciting and romantic, and hardly cost us a penny. We might renew our vows and have a big 'do' one day if we get rich!

best of luck, have a smashing day.