to not want to go to a wedding on the day my son starts high school

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We have been invited to a wedding on the same day my son starts secondary school. Not a problem except my son has a statement of special needs for severe dyslexia and suffers from anxiety and is dreading starting his new school.

I feel I need to be there to support him when he gets home incase he has any worries or has a task set by school to be done by the next day.

The couple who are getting married are friends of my DH I don't even know them that well!

I just hate the idea I won't be there for him if he needs me.

YANBU - my DS is actually looking forward to starting high school in September and I still want to make sure I'm close by just in case.

If you dont know them particularly well, why not just ask DH to go alone and make polite excuses for you.

A once in a lifetime event (esp one that he is worried about) trumps someone you dont really know's wedding every time.

I wouldn't go. I think it would be far too stressful all round - it's a big day for your DS and of course you want to be there for him! I think if people marry on a weekday they do have to accept that some people won't be able to make.

don't go and don't worry about it!

Can I be cheeky and ask a question - my DS has severe dyslexia too and we're having such problems getting him any help. He's 8 soon and still reading at level 5 ORT (even that is really really hard for him). Would that be comparable to your DS at the same age? How did you go about getting a statement for him, was it a huge struggle? I've been told by DS school that statements are very rarely given for dylslexia....sorry, know this is not what the thread is about but I am desperate for info!

My dd also starts high school this year, I am taking the first few days off work in order to be there when she gets home. And also because I will be a nervous wreck and no use to any of my clients

yanbu.

It's not compulsory to accept all invitations. YANBU.

Thank you for the replies, good to know I'ts not me being over protective and paranoid, will speak to DH and suggest we find a way round it.

CirrhosisByTheSea my DS is 11.5 and has a reading age of 8 and a spelling age of 7.5. Yes it is extreemly rare to get a statement just for Dyslexia but if you can prove it is effecting their behaviour (regularly excluded from school), self esteem and mental health issues (self harming) like it does our DS then you may have a case, it took us about 1.5 years from applying for the statement to eventually getting the statement but it has been worth it, my DS is for the first time ever happy to go to school. Only you can fight for his right to be given help if he is struggling, we got an independant Educational Physchologists report from Dyslexia action which cost about £350 but it made the school sit up and take notice and we took it from there by applying for a Parental Referral for a statement, I would contact your local Parent Partnership who are there to advise you on your rights as a parent of a child with special needs.
Good Luck and never stop pushing for that help.

Cirrhosisbythesea, ORT 5 is age equivalent 5-6 years www.oup.com/oxed/primary/oxfordreadingtree/chart_2010/