to think my oh suddenly turns into an idiot when I am pregnant?

[jenniejennie]

It cant just be my hormones? My husband likes to come out with stock phrases every time I am upset about something and this becomes infuriating when I am pregnant. Every issue I raise is responded to by:

"Its just your hormones"

This time round he has added:

"you were like this last time you were pregnant and I wont stand for it"

Is it just my husband who is like this or am I being very unreasonable and it probably is my husband!!??

If mine did this, I'd be furious (and what's going on with the "I won't stand for it" part of it?). Is he dismissive of your feelings when you're not pregnant or does your being pregnant give him an excuse?

Oh, YANBU, by the way - sorry.

GGGRRRRR!! my OH did that too and he knows it aggravates me so does it even more.

he seems to think there must be some reason other than his behaviour that makes me annoyed with him. no man, it's just you!!!

I feel like its just him but he says "I had a face like a slapped arse when he came in" he went away for the night camping with his friends and I stayed at home looking after our two year old. When he came home he gave me a hug but then he started sniffing and said "the house smells of s**t"

We have washable nappies and our washing machine has broken. Yes our house does smell of s**t but actually I am exhausted from looking after our toddler all night and playing with him all weekend and I wanted a bit of thanks for the things I have done. GRRRRR

Yes the floor was very muddy but thats becuase I have been doing gardening all morning with a toddler and things get a bit messy when you are having fun in the garden with a tiny person. What about "well done for being so creative and braving gardening with a small child who wants to un pot all the plants you have potted and throw mud every where." All I got was moaning about the things which hadnt been done.

He's been telling me i'm controlling and hormonal all afternoon now after I complained about him moaning at me. I just felt so unappreciated. Its hard enough having a small child who is as demanding as ours and who doesnt sleep let alone feeling like your oh doesnt appreciate the fact it took all my pregnant energy to look after our son.

Quote from husband "we just have different standards of cleanliness, I like the house to be spotless and you dont mind if it turns into a s**thole as long as you have fun playing with ds"

this is dp's first baby... he said 'you're not ill'..... ive been vomitting, i have back,hip and boob pain and i am exhausted...he bloody sneezes and he is ill!!

(i told his mum!!)lol

HIBU

He won't stand for it? FFS who does he think he is?

My oh's mum would be on his side lol! Mummys boy!

Maybe he is just a bit hungover, tired and feeling guilty for going away for the night and leaving me for the whole weekend. Neither of us really get any time to do anything these days.

I am sooooo angry with him. What an idiot. Argh!!!

Men!

Vile creatures!

He's being a twat.

The shit smell doesn't sound nice though, can't you use disposables til the washing machine is fixed?

If he thinks a clean house is more important than playing with your son then let him clean it while you --make- a mess have fun with your baby.

Yes we are using disposables. HE put a washable on our son a few days ago knowing full well the washing machine was broken. Then blames ME for the smell!!!

I have hand washed said vile nappy now........ nice.

Hmm, shouldn't he have been the one to hand-wash the vile nappy instead of coming home and complaining about it?

I keep telling him it is more important to play with our son than tidy the house. Downstairs is in fact spotless if you ask me, apart from the small pile of washing and the muddy footprints between the garden and the telephone. I have since cleaned the floor.

Upstairs is not in a great way but i'm blimin exhausted and someone has to cook, put child to bed, sort finances, order new washing machine.

I asked whether he appreciated that I spent all my free time last night choosing and ordering a new washing machine and he said "I wouldnt have bothered, I think we should just start going down the launderete"

Is it any wonder I feel unappreciated.

Grrr.

Well, the only possible answer to that is that if he thinks the launderette's a viable option, he can do all the laundry from now on. He sounds like a jerk - but why are you putting up with being treated like this?

Its just so frustrating. I have tried telling him how he is making me feel today but every time I do that and I get upset he tells me i'm controlling and hormonal and I just dont know what to say. It just escalates into a massive row each time and we never get anywhere.

He did come and give me a hug but he didnt resolve the issue he just wanted to forget about it but then he kept bringing it up and pointing out how much I have annoyed him etc......

MEN!!!!!!!

My Dh now will not ever critisise anything to do with the housework/washing ect.
This is after he made some throwaway comment that I cant remember now about the house being a state and asked what I'd been doing all day.
I went bloody mental and informed him that the Dc and dog were fed, happy and still alive, but he wouldnt be if he ever marched in and treated me like a bloody employee again!
Mil was there and told him that shed kill him if I didnt
I really think there would have been blood (his obv) if he'd come in with that attitude after coming back from a jolly where I'd looked after Dc whilst pg as well!

Im pg and feeling a bit angry atm

Im now angry and pregnant!! Lol

I wasnt angry until he got home and treated me like an idiot.

Jenniejennie YANBU. And you are appreciated. Your post has just made me laugh out loud and I've only had two hours sleep.

"and I wont stand for it" !!!! or what?

Fabisgettingthere is right. And as for the launderette, you'd be there twice a day. Does he want to spend £50 a week on washing.

I think this is against the secret mumsnet code but I havent posted on here for such a long time so I just said to husband that I had consulted with mumsnet and they all agreed that he is a twat.

Apparently you would agree with me as you are all women and he expects I only gave my side of the story.

Idiot. Such a predictible response.

Okay, let him give his side then.