to think this person is irresponsible to come with her child to a social event

[PavlovtheCat]

when
a) her DS (aged 4) has impetigo, he has been off school all week as she has been 'quarantined' (her words) because of it.
b) she is recovering from a bout of tonsilitis and was apparantly ill all last week, and still felt poorly.

There was a 17 week old baby there, as well as an 8month old who are vulnerable to bugs such as tonsilitis and young children playing with the boy who had impetigo.

AIBU to think she was irresponsible to either bring him, or not let us know they had illnesses that were contagious so we could choose not to come?

AIBU or should I just get over myself and accept that we cannot cocoon our children?

mint and lorem - he was on oral antibiotics and cream, don't know how long for, but she said he was unwell for a couple of days first. He had a mouth infection and she thought this had spread out so took a while to go to gp.

My friend whose party it was is a nurse, she said, as we walked in 'don't let dd kiss xx' and why, just in case it was still contagious. So while there is a chance it was probably all fine, there is a chance it is not. There was no 'it is all fine now as he is on antibiotics so don't worry it just looks unsightly' it was very much, don't let them kiss each other (which is likely or at lease close contact as DD is 3 and he is 4, they like holding hands and hugging).

What will be will be and I am not stressing, if she gets it, she gets it and my friend (the nurse) has put some of the Fucidin cream in a pot for me (she has some just in case her DS gets it too) so we can deal with it immediately. And my DS is a bit older than newborn so hopefully a lot stronger now (and bf so has some of my immune system too) I just think it is very irresponsible to put your children in that situation in the first place.

glad to hear that her tonsilitis is no longer contagious though. Not sure about the children, but i am rather susceptible to throat infections and they knock me sideways for weeks.

DS had a rash that the GP thought might have been impetigo (I didn't think it was, thought it was a virus) and he gave me an anti-biotic cream and said DS would be fine back at nursery 48 hours after starting to use the cream.

If she is recovering from the tonsillitus she's unlikely to be contagious for that either.

I think YABU...
From what I've read, neither of them should have still be contagious -- certainly not after 5 days (impetigo, the week off school) and 12 days (she had the tonsillitus the week before?) of treatment.

Anyway, both are caused by bacteria that are extremely common in the environment, plenty of people are transmitting the same bacteria harmlessly and unknowingly all the time.

I went to school with impetigo , no idea if there is a point where it is 'safe' though (mum was a nurse so wouldn't have sent in an infectious child, unless things have changed since the 80s/90s) and when I had tonsilitis they said once the symptoms where there I was no longer infectious, though felt too shitty to go anywhere much anyway.

cantstipulate no she had tonsilitis this last week just gone, and will still unwell with it, swollen glands sore throat and sore ears.

cantsupinate i misread your name completely!

Anyway, time will tell as to how unreasonable she has been

I WOULD LIKE TO SEE A BAN ON CHILDREN

but that would mean leaving them home alone, now that would be irresponsible

WELL I WOULD EXTEND THE BAN, I WOULD BAN HOMES TOO!

In the bin cupboards then? Bit smelly...or on an island on their own? That would sort out the passing of childhood germs...they could come back when they are 18?