to think that something so important that it prevents ex-H from spending time with DD shouldn't actually just be......

[Narabug]

...... reading posts on a forum about zoos?

Ex-H was supposed to be taking DD today as it is his access day, but he claimed he was too busy and wouldn't be able to until 3:30pm. It turns out (courtesy of MIL - who I am on very good terms with - grassing him up, and my own access to this site and ability to view his activity history - call me a stalker if you must) that what he actually did was take a long lie in, then spend the day browsing posts on a certain zoo forum.

This is more important than time with his DD?

YANBU - thank God he's your ex!

I'm hurting so much for DD's sake, how can this be better than her?

Jx

On a zoo forum?

As in the porny lads' mag, or a place with caged animals?
Either way- What a nob!

Caged animals, but I guess that could apply to either.....

Arse!

So what are you going to do about it?

Aw,I'm sorry I was flippant. You must be so hurt on her behalf.

What can I do Fab? Other than be there for my daughter and make sure that she knows that she is surrounded by love and the absolute centre of my world.

You can help DD by when she realises her dads a twat ...being there,as you always have been -kids arent stupid.

Did he have animal fetishes???

aww you poor thing, I saw XH with DS3 briefly today (went round to pick up a few more bits with a MN friend), he didn't even pick DS3 (he's not quite 3) up or give him a hug.

How hard would it have been???

Have been there, done that, for me the breaking point where I couldn't take it anylonger was when DS came back after a weekend with his dad saying that he had spent the weekend with a friend of my ex's girlfriend while his dad and her went in holiday for the weekend. NICE!

No, he just likes zoos, he is a bit of an overgrown child.

Thing is, I don't want her to realise that her dad is a twat, I want her to have a good relationship with her dad for her sake, because that is what she deserves.

Jx

It hurts still so much I can't bring myself to use commas...

sorry but PMSL @ Mongolia's last post

You cant make him be what he isnt - maybe he will realise soon that dd v zoo = no comparison.

Yes, that's what she deserves but, in reality, there is little that you can do about it without getting into trouble. According to my solicitor, the solution is to reduce contact in the attempt to make Dad appreciate the time with his child, however, it can backfire big time, some of them as soon as they start to see less of the children, they can more easily put them out of their mind

YANBU - he is a knobhead.

But a forum about Zoo's makes me a little.

IS it that Zoo aplication in Facebook? I guess that some people get very addicted to it, or worse off... to FarmVille.

I blardy love the fact someone asked which Zoo!!!

why? because it's so obvious?

Just made me laugh....

but now I have housework to do....

you are going to check that Zoo forum, aren't you???

Nah, he doesn't 'do' Facebook, its a forum, a bit like this one, but where people discuss things they have seen in zoos etc....

If you have access to this particular formum and he's posted when he was supposed to be having DD, you post as well. Ask him publicly on line if this is really more important than having access to his daughter?
Hopefully he'll feel like a complete idiot and realise he can't get away with it.