my baby is 10 months old.i had a very long labour, followed by an emergency c section. he was taken away and put in special care 12 hours after delivery, then moved to different hospital 2 days later, i was discharged next day to be with him, so wasnt really cared for myself. it was awful, plus the after care i got for those 2 days was totally shocking (couldnt get water/ pain meds, blood all over the hospital toilets, nurses wouldnt take me to see my baby...the list goes on) in the end, after 5 days, we were allowed to bring our baby home, and he has thrived since. i had trouble bonding and was freaked out when my partner went back to work after a week as a family at home, i really wanted him to take a few more days off (he could afford it but refused, which im angry about). he came home from his 1st day at work and i was in a bit of a state (tho i calmed down after a bit of a blub) and he suggested his mother come and look after us. i resisted (she lives in NZ so its expensive/ intrusive/ i hardly know her) but he was very pushy, then started saying that he needs support too, so i said ok. by the time she arrived the next week i was coping really well. she was emotionally unstable, needy, rude and prone to angry outbursts. i swear i was not rude to her, but she told my partner i was. the pair of them basically ganged up on me and put me through hell for 2 weeks, i ended up walking the streets 3 wks after c-section to get some space and not be critised/ bullied by her. He was furious with me for upsetting her. this is probably the only time in 5 years i feel let down by him, he is in every other respect an amazing partner, but i just cant seem to get over this. she came to stay again later that summer and had a couple of outbursts, but was better. she is coming againfor 2wks this summer and i am dreading it. he wont discuss a hotel. she has always been prone to mood swings, her family tend to ignore it. i feel really frightened when she kicks off, and dont see why i should be expected to deal with it. we have talked and talked but he cant see my point of view, and i feel so deeply betrayed i dont want to have sex (altho still BF and getting broken nights) and feel angry with him constantly. its making me myserable. desperate for a way forward as im scared this will eventually push us apart.