to want ex's new address for child access

[IanD]

my partners ex has moved and has not give a new permanent address for where he is now living, he wants to continue the court order access as normal but will not give his new address, is my partner right in refusing him access as she doesnt know where her child is going to be staying..

No. The court order still stands.

Why won't he give his address? If she thinks he is up to something more worrying than just generally being a tiresome knob and trying to annoy her, she should perhaps consult a solicitor re 'prohibited steps' ie does she think he might be tring to take the child out of the country or something?

Nope. By all means ask politely for a contact number, but no, refusing contact is a really bad idea. The court has judged that contact is in the child's best interests. Also - you might just want to maybe have a little more sensitivity/awareness to the idea that the child is 'theirs' not 'hers'.

although contact needs to go ahead, my ex did a veryu similar thing.

I wrote to his solicitor and told them why ds wouldnt be made available for contact.
He turned up as normal, i refused contact and told him why ... still didnt give address!
about 3 hours of texting later i got it!

explained that he wouldnt be happy if i moved without telling him and he got it in the end!!

Could you phone the court where the order was made and ask what the procedure is for getting details like change of address from a parent who is unwilling? There must be someone who could advise.

Chances are the father has been busy with the move and telling his ex is low on his list of priorities, as he thinks she can still contact him by mobile. But this isn't the point, he should provide all contact details, especially if the child is to stay there. If the boot was on the other foot, he'd be kicking off!

solidgoldbrass you hit it on the head he seems to be a tiresome knob about every little thing, my partner is seeking advice from solicitor about this, if it were my flesh and blood id want to know exactly where they were sleeping hes known for 2 month he was moving away and still hasnt gave a contact address out she also needs one for a contact for her solicitor to get in touch with him..

At Ian, seems a bit dodgy to me. Is it worth one of you (or better yet an unknown 3rd party, private investigator or a friend) following dad home from the meeting place just so you know where the kids are going?

not sure if that is the right way to go about things sanielle he's the type if he found out would try and use that against you in a court at a later date...

If there is an ongoing court case you would be seriously unwise to withhold court ordered contact. If he is simply doing it to annoy you, ignore it - he'll have to reveal it in court papers etc. If the child's mother feels he isn't revealing it because the accomodation is not suitable that needs to be raised in court. Does your wife inform her ex every time you go away somewhere together so he knows exactly where his flesh and blood is sleeping?

Hi Tanga there is no ongoing court case just a court order in place for access, he is simply doing it to annoy her i think your right ignoring it will be the best option as he cant hide the address forever, my partner informs her ex of everything from holidays to trips away....

There is no way I'd allow anyone to take my child without my knowing where they were heading to, whether that's legal or not I don't know, what does her solicitor say ?