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to be [hmm] about new neighbour and my dog?

18 replies

BritFish · 25/03/2010 17:39

i dont know whether im being brave or stupid posting in AIBU as dogs dont seem to be very popular on here but here goes!

we have a new neighbours, lovely couple, went over to introduce ourselves the last wekk, in an effort to be more sociable than the last neighbours were.
we have a jack russell, who's 10, who is a grumpy sod, but thats not relevant really!
he barks a normal amount i suppose, not that loud as he is small, and usually only short bursts a couple of times a day when he's out, not continually barking, not 'nuisance' barking. unnoticable really.
but, stopped to chat with the new female neighbour today, and she went "ooh, i know a great trainer to sort out that racket" about our dog. i asked her why and she goes on to say it was a noise disturbance and to keep him indoors was best, her friend owns plenty of dogs etc etc.
i asked her if she had an anxious, anti-dog visitors, children etc. No. if they were on night shifts. No. if they had overly sensitive hearing problems. No.
i covered every base, and she just told me he needed to be shut up as he was extremely annoying!

this is a dog who might bark if he sees a pigeon. literally 'bark, woof' and then he stops. MAYBE twice a day. is this annoying? not anti social hours either, although he's not loud enough to wake anyone and they have double glazing.
AIBU to do absolutely NOTHING???

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BritFish · 25/03/2010 17:40

we have new neighbours, not 'a' new neighbours! sorry!

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MrsC2010 · 25/03/2010 17:41

YANBU

thighsmadeofcheddar · 25/03/2010 17:41

Ignore her. My dog has maybe one or two barks a day too, in the middle of the day so not anti-social hours either. I don't think this is too much.

TootaLaFruit · 25/03/2010 17:43

Don't do anything. Dogs bark. Like you say, if he was being left out and barking away for hours then v. annoying, but your neighbour will just have to get used to the occasional 'woof'. People are so annoying. If she talks about it again say that you are working on some great training tips but in reality do sod all. If she says they're not working tell her it takes time, and you're sure her fantastic friend would agree.

Cakesandale · 25/03/2010 17:43

Are you sure he doesn't bark a lot while left alone?

If you are, then you are not being unreasonable. Most sensible neighbours would like a dog about the place, great for putting off burglars. ignore her.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 25/03/2010 17:45

Ahh just ignore her, she is probably just worried that he might be one of those dogs that barks constantly. When she realises he doesnt then things should hopefully be fine.

lilacclaire · 25/03/2010 17:48

We have neighbours over the back that have a very small dog with a very loud bark.
It goes on and on and on and (well you get the drift) if they are not in.
If your dog is out when you are not in, this could be the case here.

Pikelit · 25/03/2010 17:50

You have a JRT who only goes 'bark, woof", maybe twice a day? Well bring him over. He might manage to impart the secret of his astonishing silence to my Jack Russell. Who needs regular reminding of the annoyance of barking his sodding head off.

I do have sympathy, incidentally, but as another Jack Russell owner you'll know just how much the classic JRT "bark" can do heads in. But if you are genuinely certain he cannot be heard and is such an irregular barker then you could take the "do nothing" option. I think I'd consider recording him just to make certain he isn't noisy when you are out though. But if he is perceived to be a noise nuisance you'll be visited by Environmental Health.

BritFish · 25/03/2010 17:51

he's not alone much really, and im pretty sure he doesnt bark when he's left alone because the old neighbours were retired and they would have DEFINATELY said something. they were like that!
i just cant believe she has a problem with it! fair enough if he barked a lot, fine, id shut him up quicker, but he doesnt!
and the fact he doesnt bark senselessly is in fact proof of how good a guard dog he is, as he only barks when a. playing with us. or b. there is an 'intruder' be it a massive pigeon or someone breaking into our car [3 years ago]
if she says it again il bring that up i think.
and if it happens a third time i'll do a very irrational "well, he was here FIRST" and flounce off

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BritFish · 25/03/2010 17:54

Pikelit:
I know, he's v. good in the barking department compared to friend's JRT's! he is very characteristically grumpy though, makes up for the fact he's not snappy/yappy!
and i really think the old neighbours would have said something, they came round when i turned the TV on too loud once!

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darkandstormy · 25/03/2010 17:55

next time you see her just give her a half smile, and would just blank her in future tbh.Could not be bothered with that sort.

MrsC2010 · 25/03/2010 17:56

In a closely residential area the odd bark here and there is to be expected and is par of the course. Persistent barking is very different of course.

groundhogs · 25/03/2010 18:34

Our neighbours have 2 JR dogs and they bark once or twice when the family is in.

But when they are out, the pair of them yap and yap and yap at any hint of a noise outside in the garden. It's infuriating....

considered a bark buster, but tbh, i just put up with it, I know the neighbours keep the dogs quiet when they are there.

ScreaminEagle · 25/03/2010 20:25

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ljgibbs · 25/03/2010 20:36

Is it possible that another dog in the area is barking and she thinks that it is your dog?
I ask this because a friend of mine had a neighbour who came around to complain about the dog barking. Started ranting and raving at him, when friend managed to get a word in edge ways he pointed out that the dog had died 2 weeks previously. The neighbour was extremely embarassed and rightly so

NestaFiesta · 26/03/2010 11:49

YANBU. Our neighbours have two dogs which they had before we moved in. Their dogs do bark a fair bit, but after a while the noise just becomes background noise, like buses going past or birdsong. Your neighbour can't expect a silent neighbourhood. I'm not a dog fan at all, but I wouldn't presume to lecture people on their dog's behaviour when they had been there longer then me!

MeMudmagnet · 26/03/2010 12:58

My neighbour has a very yappy JRT. He stands in the garden barking at thin air. It really is very irritating.

I love dogs and have one myself, but it does do your head in when you can't make a noise in your own garden without being barked at.

Just because he's small doesn't make his bark less irritating, quite the opposite I find.

On the other hand you neighbour could be miserable busybody. But I'd try to look at from her point of view and see if you can quieten him down a bit. If she's still not happy then ignore it.

runnybottom · 26/03/2010 13:00

Barking dogs are deeply irritating, and you should find out for sure if your dog is making noises when you are not there.
Just because you like dogs doesn't mean your neighbours do, and its not fair to disturb them.

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