DS is three and a half months old. DH has been studying full-time since September, having stopped full-time work to do so. We both thought it would be wonderful having him around so much when DS was little and, in many ways, it is great. BUT...it drives me nuts that DH just - IMO - organises his time and place of study to suit him, without realising that that has an impact on what I do. For example, he'll tell me he's leaving to go to college at a certain time, then leave an hour later, so I'm lugging laundry around the house with DS in a sling whilst DH updates facebook or similar. Whilst I wouldn't know, and couldn't care less, if he was farting around during a working day in the office, I find it really irritating that he does so at home whilst I'm tidying up, changing nappies or moving things from one room to another (something that inexplicably takes up a vast proportion of my waking hours - sleepsuit here, nappy there, babygym somewhere else).
DH also comes home in the middle of bath time or as I'm trying to settle DS to sleep, having said he won't be back until late, and I just feel really disrupted. I feel sad that I feel that it would be much easier if he was out of the house from 8am until 7pm, as he was when he worked. But the unpredictability of DH's behaviour, in addition to the inevitable unpredictability of my baby's "routine", leaves me feeling totally out of control. DH thinks I'm completely unreasonable and am trying to banish him from his own house but, honestly, all I want is for him to tell me what he's doing and when he's going to be around, so that I can plan accordingly. AIBU?