in thinking ex is being a prat

[ka32]

ok, be gentle with me lol even though i'm asking am i being unreasonable.
Long story, will try to make it short. Split with hubby, now soon to be ex. Kids etc amicably enough shared, but one of the reasons we split was his total lack of respect for me, and his lackadasical attitude helping in the house, timekeeping etc etc.

The timekeeping thing was such a big deal that I actually got it written into the separation documents that any times agreed for him to pick up etc were to be adhered to unless phone call/communication first and change was mutually agreed.

Anyway, today, he's supposed to be here at 5pm. I txt at 5.15 'when will you be here' 5.40 get reply 'sorry not til 7.30'

ended up phoning him (he didn't answer first time round obviously knew it was me) and having row with him down phone saying you can't treat me like this anymore, my life doesn't revolve around you, I'm not your support anymore.

So, oh wonderful mumsnetters, am i being unreasonable in being sitting here fuming feeling like i've been shafted?? (not that i don't love DS and DD and not that its any bother to have them but he uses this picking them up as a control thing i think)

hatesponge that's exactly what it's like, I used to feel like I was constantly apologising, and I had to organise everything coz he never did.

Is it just me who thinks it shows a total lack of respect for everyone else in the entire world?? Like they must be less important than him, he is so important everything will wait for him?? IYSWIM

agas... so true, it reminds me of the old lightbulb joke:

how many egotistical men (read for that either of our Exs!) does it take to change a lightbulb?

One. He stands still, holds up bulb and waits for the world to revolve around him

OMG i love it!!!

I just wanted to make two points...

1. The best revenge is to live well and, hooray for the new DP, you are living well.

1. I might find a way of being zen about your own feeling and calmly point out that by being late he is telling his children that they are not as important to him as whatever (or whomever) he was doing before.

My cousin has the exact same situation. New lovely DH and old idiot ex. He is lazy, late, dirty and annoying. I don't know how but she says calm. When I was helping them with childcare once, he came in, made a jam sandwich, put the jammy knife down on the counter and left. He is lucky it was not embedded in his eye.