To think dh is being selfish

[Claireodon]

Right, my dh gets up every day at 5.15am to go to work. Today he had an easy day and finished at 10.30am.

I have got a job to start on Monday and need to go into my new workplace to hand in some forms, etc. When he got up this morning I asked him if he would have our dc when he got home from work so I didn't have to drag her into town with me (the pushchair is broken). He said "uugh, I suppose" which obviously meant that he didn't want to/see why he should have to. So I snapped at him and he went off to work.

He came back from work saying he would come into town with me, which was fine. Unfortunately some tradesmen then needed access to next door through our house so he would have had to stay at home.

He has now asleep in bed. I am annoyed because I can't leave dc with him and go out. He doesn't always have a sleep during the day, he didn't have a sleep yesterday or Monday for example (when I had nothing to do). AIBU to think he is being a selfish arse?

sort the kids out and wake him up saying i'm going into town the DC are playing nicely see you when I get back - they are his children after all - you shouldn't need to ask for him to look after them.

yes he is being selfish yanbu
working those hours is not much @ all so he needs 2 do a portion of child care too otherwise why shud u be on 24/7 for ur dcs & he works 5 hours???

Yanbu bring n dc let her jump up & down on bed askin wat daddy has play now that its his turn to mind her he is not doing u a favour this is his child too & im sure he is tired & im sure u do apricate how hard he works for his family & tell him so but u hav something to do and he needs to b up ready & willing to help u right now... if u prefer a gentlier aproach then bouncing him awake giv him a gentle wake tell ul be off soon & if he wants ya to pick up sumit nice for him & dd?

Just wake him up and say 'I have to go out now, I'll be back soon'. As others have said, she's his DD too, and there's no reason he can't look after her.

if you buy him a treat (such as a chocolate bar or equivalent that he would like - I know my DP doesn't have a sweet tooth) then it might butter him up. Spontaneous generosity is a good training technique . He sounds like he needs a boot up the backside tbh, but it doesn't have to be all about arguing and forcing. If he's unaccustomed to taking any responsibility, the gentle approach might be easier all round.