friends

[fishingboat]

how do I move on from losing my two close friends?? fell out with on who then involved the other, I'm feeling totally alone today, just taken my baby for drive in the car and passed a mum s house from school my ex friends car was in the drive and another mum from school who i see regular at different groups, was thinking of inviting her for a coffee but now I not so sure! aND Now it clicks why the mum who s house they were at has stopped saying hello to me. Feeling really down came home and cried. Really struggling to make friends. Thinking there s something wrong with me because other people seem to move from one circle of friends straight into another, and I'm stuggling and feel so alone, what s wrong with me!!

What happened?

Was it a really bad fall out that you can't get beyond? If not I'd seriously try to make it up with her. I'd also try inviting the other mum who you were thinking of.

Are you sure the other mum has stopped talking to you, or could you be a bit over sensitive given the situation.

It is horrid feeling all alone, hope you work it out

No I really did try everything I could to fix it, but got nothing in return. There's only so many times a person can try. My friend was well aware I had been feeling down but only cared about her own feelings at the end of it all. After are fall out my doc put me on anti depressants I hit rock bottom.

I let slip to my friend that a baby wouldn't suddenly make everything ok for her. It's a long story did not say it out of the blue there was a long build up. I would never bad mouth either of them I don't even know why she involved my other friend she s not even talked to me face to face she just sent a few horrid texts and yes it does feel like childs play, I keep reminding myself I'm 31 and they are a few years old than me. I can see now what I said upset her but her response is a total shock to me.

No I would not do the same thing again but then again I will not let myself get close to anyone like that again either, we spent alot of time together helped each other with our problems believe me she always let me know what she thought and now I think about it I let alot of things she said go! When it comes down to it I don't think we really knew each other at all. I've cofided in one old friend who I have known for over 15 yrs but we live miles apart now, she said if I had said it to her she would of known it was only out of concern, but then again people are different.

I think they're being U TBH, and childish to boot. I know making friends is hard, but maybe these weren't the ones for you? Annoying as you put the effort in, but maybe you'll just have to go & start joing a few things to try & find the right ones.
It can be hurtful when people know you're right in their heart of hearts, & then blame the giver of the advice as some strange transferance thing. For what's worth, I've just said a similar thing to my friend recently, he took it with very good grace & welcomed the advice sought - there are good ones out there

sorry floopy what does U TBH mean? thanks for the reply

fishingboat.I had a very similar thing happen 3 years ago with a friend I had known for 30 years.I said something she took it the wrong way etc At this time I was trying to help her enroll on a course, sort herself etc,she had just returned from many years abroad.I apologised, she was really cool and judgemental.I was so upset, in hindsight,I think perhaps she chose to cut off our friendship because perhaps I had what she wanted ie kids, happily married.I think it was her way to safeguard herself and distance herself from me.I suspect there may be an element of this in your situation.Please if you have apologised from the bottom of your heart,you now have to make the choice and carry on with your life.These things happen,it is a horrible situation,please,please do not beat yourself up about it any further as it will be futile.As for those who choose to side with her on the basis of hearing one side of a story are really not worth bothering about,honestly they aren't.Smile hold your head up high and get out there,anywhere and chatting to new people

...unreasonable to be honest...