AIBU dilemma .....

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Your thoughts please...
Due to lack of communication between me and DH we have agreed to go out on Saturday with two different groups of friends. He has arranged with "oldest" friends (admittedly his)as it's one of their birthdays. I have arranged with newish friends (neighbours and parents of dd1's friends) to go for curry at local curry house. I would really like to get to know these people better. Oldest friends do not have kids and we do not see them that often but it is a tradition we always go out for birthdays and they came out for mine last week...
So far we just keep going round in circles on who to let down. DH spoke with the partner of birthday friend today and the inference was clearly that he expected us to cancel the neighbours due to "my" cock-up!
So what would you do??

go out separately?

I'd probably go out seperately too

i would go with oldest friends personally and explain to the others that you didn't realise you had double booked yourself and either postpone or promise to come next time

I would go out with the oldest friends as it is for a birthday, which can't be repeated until next year and your 'newer' friends can be re-arranged for any time. Just make sure they know that you have double booked and try and arrange a 2nd date at the same time as letting them down so that they don't think it is an excuse!

Older friends, definitely - there before and probably there after. Loyalty to the old crew and all that!

I would go out seperately. I always go on nights out with my friends without DH then we do evenings at houses with husbands.

is one an early eve thing and the other later so you could do both

I would go with oldest friends- birthday takes priority, the curry could be re-arranged I would think?

Oldest friends IMO - especially as they came out for your birthday last week. Plenty of opportunity to book something with new friends in the future I would have thought.

thanks for the responses
Feel v awkward telling new friends but deep down know that going out with old friends is the right thing to do (also ..we had to pull out of last curry night as babysitter let us down)but I'm sure there will be a next time!
Had thought of the separate option but DH not keen (I will be driving see...)