My uncle is a lovely man but he seems to have no clue when it comes to money and priorities and organisation. He has a new wife and I do wish them well as his ex was an interesting character but she is very, very young and is now pg and being all idealisitic about studying from home etc with the baby (her plan when they married was to study before they had babies but they seem to have changed their minds). What the lady wants the lady gets but bless them they don't have a clue about cleaning etc. My parents recently stayed with them for a while to help out when my gran was ill and the place was filthy. They had no clue about how to clean the kitchen worktops, the cooker hood was dripping grease as the filter had never been changed and he was going to rip out the loo and get a new one as it was all black inside and he didn't know how to clean it.
Ok so that isn't directly related to the trigger for my rant but it just shows the attitude that things will work out, they just swan around in a floaty cloud. The ds from his first marriage lives primarily with them so not as though it is a lack of children that allows them to live like this.
Uncle runs his own business and the economic climate has not been kind so he is after hand me downs for the baby. Fair enough we think. Our cot and stage 0 carseat are offered. I'm not all that happy because a lot of stuff that was passed down for the first child was then given away or lost or damaged (this was before I had dcs so was old things from when I was a baby so a shame that they have not been able to be handed down to us) and there are toys that I used to play with as a child that have been scribbled on with pen etc and generally not looked after. Still, family need stuff so ok, I will pass it on onthe understanding that it is a loan and I expect things back in good condition.
Now we find out next month uncle and wife are planning a holiday including a visit to London, another to some of her friends etc. So they can't afford a bloody basic Ikea cot (which is what our old one is) but they can afford a holiday overseas (they don't live in the UK). So my parents are dragging the cot etc all they was to them in the car when they go over to see family shortly because they can't afford stuff for their baby yet they can go off floating about the place.
I know it is partly her age, she is young, she wants to go see friends etc but hell that is the choice you make when having dcs, she chose to marry the guy and has chosen to have a baby with him, sorry honey but that means your income has to go elsewhere. I'm not saying having a child means an end to romantic breaks etc but I am saying you should bloody well be putting other things above that!
Sorry, I'm just angry.