AIBU to want to slap SIL?

[Mowgli1970]

DD fell over yesterday and after a couple of hours at A&E we discovered she has a buckle fracture (not a clean break, as her bones are young and supple). She's in plaster from her fingers to her elbow for the next few weeks. I texted friends and family to let them know. SIL rang this morning to commiserate and ask how she was, then said "At least she's done it now, not just before the wedding!" (dd is bridesmaid to SIL's daughter in Sept). I was stunned into silence really but thought "Yes, I'm so glad my daughter hasn't inconvenienced YOU by breaking a bone and spoiling your wedding!!" Is it just me?!

She probably just meant that lucklily for everybody, this injury doesn't stop your DD (or you) from attending and enjoying her wedding.

No doubt your DD is looking forward to the wedding too. So she will be glad not to miss it.

Sorry to hear about the injury, but maybe YABU a little bit to take this comment in the most offensive possible way.

She had wedding self-obsession. Either that or she is now cringing at herself for making that comment!

She did, at least, phone you to commiserate.

Your poor dd though! How old is she?

LOL, depends have you ever put your foot in your mouth?

YANBU, surely your daughter could still be a bridesmaid with a cast on anyway. Just it won't look so nice in the photos

Hope your daughter is making a good recovery.

I agree with morriszapp, it's the sort of thing I'd have said meaning that your DD wouldn't have enjoyed the wedding so much with her arm in a cast. Unless there's history here I don't don't about I think yabu to take offence at that remark.

god that's horrible!

YANBU being a bit peed off with her but i wouldn't bother saying anything, sounds like she's a bit of a mother of the bridezilla and won't have the faintest idea what she said wrong

Exactly Avril. I think it's human nature to commiserate with our friends when they have bad luck, then try to move the tone upwards by saying 'But at least you didn't...', in a positive and hopeful way.

Nowt bloomin' bridezilla about it. Just harmless chat.

YABU - you're accusing her of some perceived slight and you want to "slap" her.

I agree with Morris. I tend to look for the bright side in every situation and the bright side of this is that at least your DD did not break her arm just before the wedding as she would be disappointed to miss it, or not be able to enjoy it as much if her arm is in plaster.

When I was little I fractured my arm and everyone said to me how lucky it was that it would be healed up before my Holy Communion. I didn't want to be phototgraphed in plaster in my lovely pretty dress nad have my fun restricted in any way.

I am guessing that your SIL meant her comment in the same light tbh.

Ahh, good old foot in mouth disease. I am sure she meant no insult.