I did post on here a while ago about my husband being unhappy at work and threatning to quit his job. In my post back then I was horrified and had this image of us having no money being homeless etc.
Well a while ago he quit, didnt even work out his notice (with their blessing). However instead of sitting at home moaning and whining all day (as I had expected) he set himself up as self employed doing the same job he was doing in his job before just at home (he is a web developer/programmer he doesnt do graphics design but does all the codey bits).
He has had LOADS of work in but the problem is (and the problem he has had at work) that he has HUGE problems with organization and concentration and so requires me to look at the work coming in, plan the project, keep him on track through the day and throughout the day keep the progress updated. I have also been dealing with all of the enquiries, money,bank things and official things. I also have three children the youngest are 3 and 1 so still at home.
In the last couple of months I have had so much fun doing this - I have really enjoyed having something to plan and wake up for and we are better off financially so I feel like I am actually achieving something with my time, I left university and got married striaght away then had three children so I have neevr done anything like that before!.
The work I have been doing is NOT full time. It takes maybe 3 or 4 hours out of a day so I dont NEED fulltime childcare especially as those hous can be split up through the day to be an hour here, half an hour there. My two daughter (aged 5 and 1) are NO problem I can easily manage them during the day.
My son who is 3 is even worse than his father when it comes to concentration and just the sheer activity level he spends all of his waking hours in a constant whirl of activity, he is loud and reall needs 100% of your attention he has accidents or just does silly things (drinking weed killer from a LOCKED cupboard and sticking an orange pom pom up his nose are just two of his long list of "incidents"). We have been reffered to some "early intervention team" about his development and behaviour as he has had trouble with assessments and delays etc but until he starts school it seems theres not a huge amount we can do.
I manage him just about when I have all day with him, when I have to split my attention it doesnt work, I just cant cope with him.
I am now thinking about putting him in fulltime nursery or at least school hours 9-3:30. we already do this two days a week but at the moment its not enough especially since I have been pregnant as I have been tired anyway. He has a one to one keyworker at nursery and at this point I feel like he is better off there than here with me, all I do is try and control him whereas at nursery the keyworker actually seems to manage to do things with him (he even started holding a pencil which he has never done before even though he is 3.5!).
I always thought I would keep my children with me (apart from a morning here and there) but now I am just re evaulating and wondering if it is unreasonable to put him in nursery all day just because I cant cope at home?