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AIBU?

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10 replies

mrsspock · 21/03/2010 20:09

this isn't the crime of the century but...am 5 months pregnant and have had vicious cold/ cough for couple of weeks. can't take anything for it, not going to kill me but can't sleep very well which is probably making me grump(ier). anyway, 'd'h is in the spare room cos my coughing 'keeps him awake' so he does get to sleep. today i was sitting with dd (2) minding my own business but having a fairly prolonged coughing fit. DH got incredibly pissed off and asked why i had to keep coughing cos it was irritating him and was 'put on'. leads to big row - mainly cos i absolutely have not been milking this/complaining (I would NEVER ask for sympathy from dh,lost cause..)but would just like him NOT to have a go at me for being ill. to be honest the bigger picture is that i don't feel i get much emotional support/comfort from dh at all and this is just (another) eg of that. although it does sound like a big storm in a teacup now it's written down

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Pozzled · 21/03/2010 20:11

Storm in a teacup maybe, but still a selfish and stupid thing to say. YANBU to be upset and expect a bit more understanding.

moondog · 21/03/2010 20:11

My dh freely admits that my coughing annoys the shit out of him.Thus realtions were somewhat strained when I was ill for about 10 weeks at Christmas.
Mind you, I want to murder him every time he pats his chest in feeble manner after he coughs so even Stevens eh?

peggotty · 21/03/2010 20:13

I have to admit that I get really irritated by other people coughing constantly. It does sound like you are more upset with the bigger issue of lack of empathy/support from your DH in general. Can you talk to him about that, maybe in a few days when you're feeling better?

thesecondcoming · 21/03/2010 20:17

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IMoveTheStars · 21/03/2010 20:17

I get really irritated with prolongued coughing. Stupid really, as I once had bronchitis for 4 months straight and couldn't talk/breathe/move without coughing.

Hope it goes soon

mrsspock · 21/03/2010 20:37

Thank you all for the responses - now i am sulking studying in my office i am feeling a bit less steamed up..peggotty you are absolutely right that this is about the bigger picture and will try to have calm chat when we are both less enraged....

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mrsspock · 21/03/2010 20:37

and obviously by 'studying' i mean ranting on MN!

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LC200 · 21/03/2010 20:41

I think my dh must be involved in a bigamous marriage. Much sympathy - let me know if you discover any way of resolving this!

MouthAndTrousers · 21/03/2010 22:16

I would be spitting blood if my Dh said anythin so bloody nasty to me when I'm ill!

YANBU and I hope you get better soon.

Servalan · 21/03/2010 22:29

Are you married to my dh?

YANBU, and hope you get better soon

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