to feel this woman is deliberately being malicious

[stressedatnetball]

to cut a long story short I joined a netball team 3 years ago to give myself a bit of a confidence boost as I had low self esteem etc it was a lovely group of girls and I really enjoyed it we trained once a week and after 6 months we decided to join our local league. Last year we merged with another team which has been the worst possible mistake the captain of the other team is a manipulative woman and wants to run everything. We always made decisions democratically and as a group but she has just come in and taken over. At the time we merged I had just taken over as treasurer from the woman who used to do it and found she could not cope, I set up spreadsheets to record money in and out bought a receipt box to keep everything in and everything was ready to go. The captain from the other team then started booking courts and things like that without telling me then refused to pay for training etc but presented me with invoices which I could not pay as we had insufficient funds. I also paid affiliation for the whole team on my credit card which cost nearly £500 then took the cleared cheques that people paid in for their affiliation back to pay off my credit card bill. The captain became very bullying phoning me for 2 to 3 hours at a time whilst I was trying to work and abusing me down the phone I kept saying over and over that my children were ill and that I had no money to give to her etc etc but I would meet with the group to discuss things she refused to meet as a group and carried on putting pressure on I have today been arrested and spent 8 hours in the cells for fraud by position and have now been bailed for 10 days awaiting further investigation but if they don't believe me I loose my job as a childminder and I am also a school governor so would have to resign from that or worst case scenario is I could go to prison all because she does not like me

the next 10 days are going to be agonising as I have already been waiting a week to get my point across. I just hope after that all this nastiness will go away.

I have learnt now other peoples problems are theirs, no money is their problem I use my money sensibly so if others can't tough I will not try and be nice again maybe this is why there are so many nasty people in the world

Reading your last post I honestly can't see how they can have a case against you at all.

Agree with Claire. It really does seem malicious and I would hope this woman gets a telling off for wasting police time! I doubt she will unfortunately but I am sure that they can't charge you with anything when it seems so clear that you didn't do anything wrong!

some people are prepared to go to police about this and have given me names and addresses

ClaireDeLoon please safe guard yourself I do not want anybody else to go through what I have had to it is horrible and I feel so betrayed

I also know this woman owes money from when she was treasurer for her previous club over £181

This does sound malicious.

I hope it resolves quickly for you.

Sorry stressed if my confusion translated into harshness - I should have said 'how did this all blow up?' as I couldn't tell from your OP how you came to be arrested.
It sounds like a nightmare but you seem to have lots of people willing to vouch for you, so hopefully it'll work out.

Why was the woman ringing you asking you for money?

OurLadyOfPerpetualSupper no worries I bit short tempered and tired today surprisingly so did not even notice

pookey she was spending money knowing we had none then demanding it from team funds but there was no money in account as we were in debt

Sound like she's the one who needs investigating. She's probably trying to get her grubby hands on money if she still owes money elsewhere. I think I would resign and wouldn't want to be involved with a woman like this.

I resigned in october only dealt with accounts for approx 6 weeks but can't believe the stress it has caused

aibu to not contact anybody from netball again as they all obviously believed this woman and aibu to remove them all from facebook or will this make me look guilty?

Hi,
Hopefully if all is as you describe then the police should be able to cancel your bail before the 10 days is up. I think that although you have acted out of good intentions you have left yourself open to this accusation by mixing funds etc.

If/when you are cleared then I suggest you ensure you make a record of any future contact with this woman and ensure someone else is with you if you speak to her. Don't take her calls etc. It may be that her contact with you could be considered harrassment if it continues.

I would not cut off contact with others - entirely possible that she is the only person involved in reporting this matter. If, as above, you say members were aware of your actions then you will want them to witness your version of events and any future problems with this woman. Also, why give her the satisfaction?

Hope you are feeling better this morning.

Being nice is just fine - being nice to people is a good thing, you just need to be selective with who you do good things for. Groups/individuals who ought to be managing their money tend to be one of the worst groups (in terms of it rebounding on you).

If you have people who will vouch for what happened you are probably going to be fine but worth asking the police if there is a case of wasting police time. Its at least worth asking...

Don't block anyone just just. Take your time, wait for it to blow over and decide what you want to then when you are feeling calmer.

Sorry but there is no point is asking about 'wasting police time'. The offence is practically defunct and is usually only punishable with a fixed penalty notice for disorder. Harrassment is a significanty easier offence to prove and only really requires ongoing unwanted contact which the defendant knows is unwanted.

I am very sorry about all this Stressed.To be fair lots of organisations have to do things like you, often there are things that you have to pay by CC and people put it on their personal card and are then reimbursed.

there is no way on gods earth you are going to prison or that it will go any further once they have checked out your figures.Easier said than done ,but please try and put it out of your mind.

Stressed - I don't think you're bu about removing malicious woman from FB but have you spoken to other netballers and explained your side? Surely not everyone is that easily swayed, I think I would do my best to explain to everyone what happened to justify your reputation.

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"Sorry but there is no point is asking about 'wasting police time'. The offence is practically defunct and is usually only punishable with a fixed penalty notice for disorder. Harrassment is a significanty easier offence to prove and only really requires ongoing unwanted contact which the defendant knows is unwanted." Or alternatively - Judge Judy?

Eh?