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AIBU to be Livid re Dh's Speeding Fine, Stag Do & General Finances

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NotSoSpeedyGonzales · 20/03/2010 12:35

Okay, have name changed to avoid being outed in RL. Will try to provide all details as I want genuine opinions.

Dh is on a stag do today and tonight, back tomorrow. We are not flush at the minute but I made him go as it is his good friend. He was made redundent last month (searches for jobs daily) and I am on mat pay, hence his reluctance to go. We can afford it but will have to make cutbacks in other areas for a month or so. No problem.

Still with me?! A few months ago Dh was caught speeding and going too fast for fixed penalty. Fast forward to this morning when I recieve a letter from the courts stating the fine. A fucking fortune. Although it is deserved I am livid about it. Really really fucking angry. All I keep thinking about is what else that money could have been spent on. With 3 dc's inc a new baby and a new house, bigger mortgage etc the list is endless.

AIBU to be so angry I don't want to speak to him. I don't want to pay it but have no choice as he is out of work. I can't stop crying, I am so so angry.

Our marriage is good, we love each other very much and he is a great husband, dad and a lovely person. There are no underlying issues but I can feel the mother of all rows coming on about this.

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SuSylvester · 20/03/2010 16:24

does it not say licence endorsed with x points

they cant ban in absence ( or do rarely)

NotSoSpeedyGonzales · 20/03/2010 16:37

Nothing about licence at all. We couldn't send it in with the plea as the dvla still have it from changing address. Would that make a difference in that they would send it out seperate from the fine letter?

Would it be best if he rings the court on monday?

I really could throttle him! Am a little calmer now though.

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